re: Psych homework

I dont know how much help Ill be but:

My childhood was more or less normal I guess. My family is very big and has lots of kids. Money was a big deal. I was taught the value early and I knew needs vs wants. We didnt have a lot, we had plenty enough though. The effect it has had on me is that I rarely spend for fun and I dread spending money because it can be used for a rainy day. Sometimes I feel selfish because I have a "mine" mentality because I rarely had something that was just mine as a kid. I always had to share or be the big sister and give up something.

As the oldest kid in the big family, Im always looked at as the responsible one and the example maker. I feel guilty disappointing my family. I got accidentally pregnant with my son at age 22, I didnt tell my family for 4 months because I was scared of their disappointment of me not being married first. Even though I had a full time career, my own home and I am a adult.

We were spanked and as far as I know I have no big psychological problems from it. After a spanking I was allowed to go back to playing and generally forgot about it after a day or two and never did whatever it was that earned me a spanking, again. I love my parents and have no hard feelings. So I guess because of my experience I dont generally view spanking as abuse when done correctly.

I hope that helps.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ꭶwan♥Nemö:</b>" I dont know how much help Ill be but: My childhood was more or less normal I guess. My family is very ... [snip!] ... feelings. So I guess because of my experience I dont generally view spanking as abuse when done correctly. I hope that helps."</blockquote>




That does help!! Thank you, can I ask did your parents spank you out of anger or were they more scheduled spankings, like "come over here, I'm going to spank you because ..."

<blockquote><b>Quoting £egendary £ex:</b>" I was physically abused by my father. I think it's crappy to turn around & abuse your kids just because ... [snip!] ... you were. I've spanked before but not often & not more than 3 times in a row. Idk if that's a good example or not, lol."</blockquote>



Yeah I think most people end up the opposite of their parents, but many things your parents do can shape you in other ways, not just in the parent you turn out to be, but the person in general.

Quoting Legendary Amanda:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Ꭶwan♥Nemö:</b>" I dont know how much help Ill be ... [snip!] ... parents spank you out of anger or were they more scheduled spankings, like "come over here, I'm going to spank you because ...""

I knew I was going to get a spanking for something when my mother would come in and turn off the tv and look at me or she'd be home waiting when I got home from school. It always started with "your teacher called...", "What happened to my_____", "you knew I was going to find out you...." lol

I wasnt spanked super often. As a matter of fact, I stopped getting them by the time I was 7-8 because I knew what earned it and I stopped doing things that would get me a whuppin. Spank worthy transgressions were: bold face lying, cursing my brothers or sisters, playing or doing dangerous things or being disrespectful towards elders. Anything else mama just gave me no tv or no being able to go outside for a week and that was enough

Quoting Legendary Amanda:" <blockquote><b>Quoting £egendary £ex:</b>" I was physically abused by my father. I ... [snip!] ... many things your parents do can shape you in other ways, not just in the parent you turn out to be, but the person in general."

true

Quoting the grace life:" Agreed. I find a hard time feeling sympathetic/sorry for people who use their childhood abuse as an excuse. I don't know if you're wanting details of abuse, but I can always PM you."

same here... it just completely sickens me, like makes me want to throw up.