Quoting Amanda(::" She's barely allowed to look at my child now. I tried to be patient with her but I just ended the conversation ... [snip!] ... to avoid murdering her. I'm 5 days PP & in pain so I haven't been up for confrontation of any kind(stress makes me tense up)"
I can imagine! Right after you have a baby is a bad time to get stressed.
As far as your tearing question - I had 3rd degree tears and close to 100 stitches. I was so afraid to go to the bathroom I held it in and didn't go for like 2 weeks (BAD idea lol) So needless to say, it wasn't good when I did finally go...but I didn't do any further damage, so I'm sure you're fine. I read somewhere that you can't pop stitches out or anything from going to the bathroom. It just HURTS.
I'm 3mnths pp and it still doesn't feel great when I go to the bathroom.