BF vent/episiotomy tear?

So DS is EBF. Had a few latching issues but working through them. Left DS with a friend for 30 minutes & went to the UPS store to fax the foodstamp office my paperwork. Came back & guess what she's doing? Attempting to formula feed him. He's 5 days old! He had just eaten. Her reasoning for it? I was apparently being selfish because I wanted to be the only one to bond with the baby. Seriously? Gtfo bitch. My kid, my choice in how & what to feed him.

On another note. I had an episiotomy. That was monday(my last bowel movement was while I was in labor before I got cut) & I finally pooped today but it feels like I"ve been ripped. Not sure if its my ass or stitches that are ripped   its irritating

Youre not selfish for EBF. That is not her child and has no right to try and formula feed him. Thats your choice not hers.

You're not selfish at all! First of all that's your child. You can bond however you choose, and you so happen to choose one of the most natural ways to do so. Secondly, what the smurf is she thinking. Why the hell is that even a reason for her to try and fees your baby.

I woulda ripped the bitch a new one.

My mom tried to formula feed my son behind my back and needless to say, he was not left alone with her afterward. Support is crucial for breast feeding success. Keep up the good work and congrats on your little ham!

As for the episiotomy, I had an awful feeling every time I went to the bathroom, but it was ok. It's normal, you are only 5 days PP.

What a bitch. She shouldn't even feel like she has the right to "bond" with your child right now. She's a friend, not a family member. I wouldn't EVER leave him alone with her again. Period.

She's barely allowed to look at my child now. I tried to be patient with her but I just ended the conversation to avoid murdering her. I'm 5 days PP & in pain so I haven't been up for confrontation of any kind(stress makes me tense up)

Quoting  Amanda(::" She's barely allowed to look at my child now. I tried to be patient with her but I just ended the conversation ... [snip!] ... to avoid murdering her. I'm 5 days PP & in pain so I haven't been up for confrontation of any kind(stress makes me tense up)"

I can imagine! Right after you have a baby is a bad time to get stressed.

As far as your tearing question - I had 3rd degree tears and close to 100 stitches. I was so afraid to go to the bathroom I held it in and didn't go for like 2 weeks (BAD idea lol) So needless to say, it wasn't good when I did finally go...but I didn't do any further damage, so I'm sure you're fine. I read somewhere that you can't pop stitches out or anything from going to the bathroom. It just HURTS.

I'm 3mnths pp and it still doesn't feel great when I go to the bathroom.  

WTF.

Yes of course your selfish for providing your baby with the milk it was meant to drink and decreasing the risk of a huge range of illnesses, diseases, cancers and conditions for both of you.

I didn't have an epistemology but I had little fissures when I pooped for the first few months. Took about 3 months for them to heal, I was advised to push slowly to let you stretch (like labour lol!)

It didn't hurt really until after I pooped & then it mainly hurt to sit down so I think I just stretched myself a little. I was so nervous when I went though. I wish I had more of those pads that are ice packs! Those were awesome lol

Quoting  Amanda(::" It didn't hurt really until after I pooped & then it mainly hurt to sit down so I think I just stretched ... [snip!] ... a little. I was so nervous when I went though. I wish I had more of those pads that are ice packs! Those were awesome lol"

Or the numbing spray!!

<blockquote><b>Quoting !!Katie!!:</b>" Or the numbing spray!!"</blockquote>

I loved the epifoam!

I tore almost to my butt. So when i went to the restroom the first time i cried. Very painful!! Im now 3 weeks post partum and feel fantastic