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posted 24th Nov

Good luck with whatever you choose. My best friend recently had an abortion last month, She went it, they talked to her and tried to pinpoint her due date from her last period, then talked to her about the costs and what not. Then she got the money, paid them and they scheduled the actual procedure a week later though they gave her an ultrasound that day. A week later she went in and doesn't remember a whole lot of it, they gave her some pill and it made everything fuzzy she says. She bled for like 3 weeks afterward, they brought her in again at 2 weeks for another ultrasound to make sure everything was clear and also gave her 3 months of BC. She says her cycles are still out of whack and she's having a lot of spotting still. It's didn't hurt terribly though, she was working again 3 days later.

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posted 24th Nov

Do you know how far along you would be you are? They'll probably give you an ultrasound to date the conception. If you're early, you can do the pill abortion. I've had that kind at about 4-5 weeks. It was just like a rough period. Tylenol 3 covered the cramps. There is heavy bleeding, and you should use pads, not tampons.

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grizzy

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posted 24th Nov

I really recommend getting an IUD after the abortion. I don't think it's such a good idea to be having unprotected sex in an unstable relationship while already having a little girl. I know things are hard between you and your husband but you really need to think what's best for your daughter because your kid should always come first. I mean my daughter would if me and the father were having separation issues and yeah, it's okay to have fun even being a single mom but it's also good to be safe because it could of been something else like an std or something.

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applelove

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posted 24th Nov

Quoting Ҿcɧơ:" You didn't read through my OP did you? lol. "

Oh I am so sorry I just did not get the last paragraph cause the baby started to cry

Let me tell you that I have had one and I think that for some people(maybe you) that they are the best decision. I also think your plan to wait to have more kids is a great one.

Mine hurt very bad BUT not as much as having a baby!

Do you know what method you are using? I was put to sleep and so I felt no pain until I woke up.

My friends who were not put to sleep told me very sad stories so make sure you get put to sleep!

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Squid Kid

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posted 24th Nov

In your position, I feel it's the best choice to make.

If you're early, you can take the pill(One to stop the heartbeat and one is cytotec). The cytotec when I took it for my MMC was not that bad. But there was leftover tissue and I needed a D&C afterward. I was in a lot of pain after the D&C and it took a while to recover.

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posted 25th Nov

You JUST found out you are pregnant.. being that youyou've had depression and you seem really stressed I think you should give it a few days to think over. Making a decision like that in just an hour is a pretty quick decision for something this huge. I know it isnt the best situation...just reading your responses..i just hope you arent making a decision that you are going to kick yourself for later.
And does your husband know it may not be his baby..even tho he's going to pay for the procedure?

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applelove

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posted 25th Nov

Quoting October2011:" You JUST found out you are pregnant.. being that youyou've had depression and you seem really stressed ... [snip!] ... to kick yourself for later. And does your husband know it may not be his baby..even tho he's going to pay for the procedure?"

I think this is some very good advise! I also think reading the abortion survivor forum might help you gain some insight on the whole thing

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posted 25th Nov

Quoting October2011:" You JUST found out you are pregnant.. being that youyou've had depression and you seem really stressed ... [snip!] ... to kick yourself for later. And does your husband know it may not be his baby..even tho he's going to pay for the procedure?"

She is really in no position for this in her life.

Not that I'm encouraging one thing or the other, but this is not just due to her depression.

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posted 25th Nov

Quoting Ҿcɧơ:" HELLLL YEAH I'm getting some freaking birth control. Heh. I just hate pills. They freak me ... [snip!] ... freak me out. But if they keep me from squeezing another baby out of my vag... WORTH IT! I think I'll be doing that lol. "

Why not go with the copper IUD? No hormones at all.

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posted 25th Nov

Quoting Squid Kid:" She is really in no position for this in her life. Not that I'm encouraging one thing or the other, but this is not just due to her depression."

I wouldnt say she's in "no position".....her circumstances arent the best. but they arent the worst either. And i wasnt typing to be all "prolife" or anything...i just think she should think about it for more than an hour.

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applelove

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posted 25th Nov

Quoting Squid Kid:" She is really in no position for this in her life. Not that I'm encouraging one thing or the other, but this is not just due to her depression."

Lots of people including me have serious regret after an abortion, no matter how ready they are or not. I think the other woman was just saying maybe she should think about it a little more and give it a little more time. So she can Be very sure this is what she wants. She was just saying this is a HUGE decision maybe sleep on it a few nights.

I agree that is why I keep telling her to read the other stories on the abortion survivors page. So she can really know what it is all about. Because I felt mad after that no one warned me about the regret.

But I am not trying to stop OP at all

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posted 25th Nov

Quoting Ҿcɧơ:" HOLY SmUrfING HELL I am pregnant again. I took a test about two hours ago, it was plain as day. Positive. ... [snip!] ... scared...so regretful...and I'm not going to be able to think about anything else until its taken care of. I need support "

Do what you feel to be right, you are a loving warm hearted soul and nobody is going to judge you. I'm pro choice as well. If you aren't ready to have another baby you aren't ready! Just if you do decide to abort get it done as soon as you can and not later. Its not going to be a nice experience. Its going to be even worse the longer you leave it.

Thinking of you! If you ever want someone to talk to, I'm always here.

Keep your friends around you for this, don't do this on your own. You need support! xxxxx

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posted 25th Nov

Quoting applelove:" Lots of people including me have serious regret after an abortion, no matter how ready they are or not. ... [snip!] ... what it is all about. Because I felt mad after that no one warned me about the regret. But I am not trying to stop OP at all"

Yeah I was definitely the same way for a long time. Its a lot of pain and heart ache, but I am still pro choice. Just think VERY carefully, its not a light decision.

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applelove

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posted 25th Nov

Quoting CandieR27:" "

I have had friends who took the pill and it is horrid! It is not like a period. The things they have told me are very sad. So I went with the surgical procedure but got put to sleep so I did not feel anything It was not that bad, it hurt a lot but not as much as labor!I was happy to feel better because I had bad morning sickness.

Anyway I chose this because I very much did not want that pregnancy. I was not worried about any thing like how I would feel or anything I knew we could try when I was ready. I wanted to finish school. The pregnancy did not make me happy I did not want it and I did not thin at all about keeping it. I wanted to get it out of me ASAP then get back to school and go back to my life.

But I got so sad after and had so much regret. I could not believe how it affected me. I mean I don’t believe in god, I did not want this or any baby so why did it ruin my life? I have no idea but I did not get over it until I was able to get pregnant again. And I did not get to go back to my life because I was so sad that I could not force myself to go on with things. I still think about that baby

I want OP to make sure this is right for her because I don’t want her to feel like I did. I am not trying to tell her not to do it but just to give it some real thought.

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