re: How do you get over it if SO is dead set on a name you don't

I just kept going on and on lol, he wanted her to have his sisters name, Jane as a first name, and I wanted it to be a middle name, so everytime he kept going on, I'd say "Ruby JANE" it got through in the end.


Just give the baby his fathers name, as a middle name, it's not that big of a deal   and the child IS half of his.

My only real argument about his dad's name that I could use is that his dad already has a namesake. He himself has his dad's middle name as a first name. So why does his dad need a second namesake. But if I fight too hard I'm afraid he'll pull out his Grandpa's name again. And I am not giving my child a serial killer's name. No, it doesn't mean that for everyone, but it does for me due to where I grew up.

<blockquote><b>Quoting dat uterus tho:</b>" I think you should just let him use the name, especially if he's letting you use it as a middle name. ... [snip!] ... it was the paternal grandfather's name, and I respect this kid's dad enough to realize how important the name is to him."</blockquote>




I agree entirely. It's just a middle name, I don't know that I would budge on a first name, like my husband wants a boy named after him (Harry) so uh,, smurf no. But a middle name? Sure.

I and my daughter have family names as middle names. We have never not been our own people, or felt like we had to live up to any ones expectations or fit anyone's shoes.

Quoting Legendary Amanda:" <blockquote><b>Quoting dat uterus tho:</b>" I think you should just let him use the ... [snip!] ... I would budge on a first name, like my husband wants a boy named after him (Harry) so uh,, smurf no. But a middle name? Sure."

If my first was a boy, her name was going to be Harry.  

<blockquote><b>Quoting bia.:</b>" If my first was a boy, her name was going to be Harry.  "</blockquote>




Are you in the UK? I think it's more popular there.

I just can't haha.. It's a classic name but I'm not a fan.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Stephanie Anne Guay:</b>" Okay, so as soon as we discovered I was pregnant he said that no matter what, if it was a boy it had ... [snip!] ... than a family name I would have strongly considered it, but every name on his list was a family member, either his or mine."</blockquote>




I think you should let him have it...if it means that much to him is it that big a deal. Why take that away if u get to pick the other names

Dude, it's a middle name, it has meaning to him, get over it and put it in the middle.

Maybe you can suggest giving the baby the same initials as his dad instead?

Just let him have it.

Quoting martinez♥:" I kept nagging. My husband was dead set on another girl with a 4-letter L name, but I couldn't find any ... [snip!] ... and I'm still not entirely fond of Lina) so that we could compromise. I still bug him though to think about it some more. xD"

I think thats a beautiful name!  

Well after seeing how many people suggested that I just let him have the name, I agreed to it. I still don't like it, but we settled on his entire name together. It couldn't have happened soon enough either, because the baby busted out 5 weeks early! So welcome to the world Sebastien Nathaniel Serge. He just came home today after 11 days in the hospital.