re: TTC after having my stillborn son

Quoting MommaSav2:" <blockquote><b>Quoting MummyToBeNicole:</b>" I spoke to my midwife and consultant and ... [snip!] ... to wait 3 months then.. And thank you Crystal x"</blockquote> Everyone IS advised to wait to TTC after a pregnancy."

Yes but she specifically said after a stillborn or mc you should wait 3 months. There was no mention there of waiting that long after giving birth to a live baby too. Just got to me a little as the whole subject is still raw

Quoting Mel & a girl named Pey:" Thank you! I am sorry for your loss as well! I really hope you do get your miracle soon! Take things ... [snip!] ... soon! Take things one day at a time and try not too stress the ttc too much because it can make it harder and take longer!"

Thank you for your advise x
I think i might wait a little while until my periods regulate again x

Quoting MummyToBeNicole:" Yes but she specifically said after a stillborn or mc you should wait 3 months. There was no mention ... [snip!] ... there of waiting that long after giving birth to a live baby too. Just got to me a little as the whole subject is still raw"

Do what you feel is best for you but if you feel you need a little time to heal and even a little more time to grieve then wait a little bit. Nothing wrong with wanting to ttc but needing a little time. No one can make this decision for you so weigh your options based on what is right for you.  

Quoting Mel & a girl named Pey:" Do what you feel is best for you but if you feel you need a little time to heal and even a little more ... [snip!] ... ttc but needing a little time. No one can make this decision for you so weigh your options based on what is right for you.  "

  Exactly this. Everyone mother of a stillborn does things differently. I am friends with women that started TTC immediately, like I did. And I'm friends with women that still haven't started trying again (a year+ later). It's all what is best for YOU. There is no right or wrong.

Hugs.

<blockquote><b>Quoting MummyToBeNicole:</b>" Yes but she specifically said after a stillborn or mc you should wait 3 months. There was no mention ... [snip!] ... there of waiting that long after giving birth to a live baby too. Just got to me a little as the whole subject is still raw"</blockquote>




That's understandable. And I'm so sorry for your loss. But I'm thinking she was just referring to your specific situation without thinking. I've never had a loss but I know that my doctor recommends waiting on intercourse until 8 weeks pp and waiting to actively TTC until a year. But of course it's always also, when you're ready. And I wouldn't dream of recommending to you to wait a year to TTC, but a couple of cycles to let your body heal and get back into a regular cycle again couldn't hurt. Kwim?
I know I have no experience with this so I feel like my advice almost doesn't count but I thought I'd offer it anyway.

Quoting Vindictive:" There is no solid evidence that getting pregnant soon after a miscarriage/pregnancy will cause any harm. ... [snip!] ... there done that. I know the urgency that you're feeling right now. No one can fault you. And shame on anyone that would try."

Thank you x
Yeah wish others would understand how hard it is to say no to ttc so soon after having a angel baby, i want to be happy again and seems like the only way is to have another baby.
Just wish my little boy was hear still, he was my first and my life honestly felt complete when i found out i was expecting him. Now his gone i feel worthless x

Quoting MummyToBeNicole:" Thank you x Yeah wish others would understand how hard it is to say no to ttc so soon after having ... [snip!] ... still, he was my first and my life honestly felt complete when i found out i was expecting him. Now his gone i feel worthless x"

I totally understand. It isn't that you want to replace him, but you've just gone through an entire pregnancy.. only to walk away with empty arms. The urge to be a mother is still there. The urge to fill your arms. So it is TOTALLY understandable that the urge to TTC is even stronger now. <3

Quoting MummyToBeNicole:" Thank you x Yeah wish others would understand how hard it is to say no to ttc so soon after having ... [snip!] ... still, he was my first and my life honestly felt complete when i found out i was expecting him. Now his gone i feel worthless x"

Just remember having another baby isn't going to guarantee that happiness will be complete right away if you are still grieving...you will have a little one to help with that but if you have another baby and still feel at a loss for your other child don't feel bad about that. While you are ttc I suggest looking in your area for pregnant and infant loss support groups!

Quoting MommaSav2:" <blockquote><b>Quoting MummyToBeNicole:</b>" Yes but she specifically said after a ... [snip!] ... Kwim? I know I have no experience with this so I feel like my advice almost doesn't count but I thought I'd offer it anyway."

Thank you, everyones opinion counts other wise i wouldnt of asked   x
I just get touchy over certain things now, i dont mean to. Sorry x

Quoting Vindictive:" I totally understand. It isn't that you want to replace him, but you've just gone through an entire ... [snip!] ... is still there. The urge to fill your arms. So it is TOTALLY understandable that the urge to TTC is even stronger now. <3"

Exactly how i feel, spent 37 weeks being pregnant to only get a couple of hours with him and a few pictures. Really not looking forward to his funeral on the 7th December  . Dont know how il cope.
Its his due date today too (25th Nov)
Just wish i was as lucky as other people having healthy pregnancies.
I must of been seriously unlucky.. Found out he had talipes at my 20 week scan and 1 in 1500 babys have that. Then i find out his stillborn and thats quite rare too. Feel SO unlucky its unbelivable x

Quoting MummyToBeNicole:" Exactly how i feel, spent 37 weeks being pregnant to only get a couple of hours with him and a few ... [snip!] ... scan and 1 in 1500 babys have that. Then i find out his stillborn and thats quite rare too. Feel SO unlucky its unbelivable x"

It is an awful feeling and it's ok to feel the way you are feeling. Many women even feel angry when they see healthy pregnant women walking around or sad. It is seriously one of the hardest things a parent can go through and everything you are feeling is normal!

Thank you, just hope the pain of loosng him eases a little soon   x

I'm sorry about your loss.

Not only should you wait 6 weeks to have sex, I think you should give your body a couple of cycles.

I got pregnant at 8 weeks post partum and only made it to 6 weeks. I blamed myself for that because I hadn't even gotten a cycle yet. I got pregnant again 2 cycles later and he's now a healthy little 3 year old.

I'll never know why I miscarried, but I always caution new moms, or moms that have suffered losses to give their bodies a couple of cycles to regulate. Let your lining build back up, etc.

Good luck! I wish you the best in whatever you decide.