How young is too young?

LO is 4 months old and sleeps in bed with DH and I. We both thing that it is time for him to start sleeping in his own bed. Most of the time even when someone is holding him he will scream himself to sleep and nothing will make him happy. How young is too young for CIO? With DS he slept with me until he was a year old and DH broke him of sleeping with me. LO has to be held all the time or he starts screaming. I also want to break that habit it but comes back to the CIO thing. So how young is too young?

I'd CIO after a year.

I believe they say that you shouldn't do it before 6 months.

Anytime before 6 months is too young to CIO.

Quoting Cariad (SuperKink):" I believe they say that you shouldn't do it before 6 months."

but yeah 6m is recommended

<blockquote><b>Quoting Marissa [40wks]:</b>" I'd CIO after a year."</blockquote>

  and not even full blown CIO. More ferberized.

Quoting Cariad (SuperKink):" I believe they say that you shouldn't do it before 6 months."

That's what I was thinking but I wasn't sure

Younger than 6 months is too young. Have you tried letting nurse or have a bottle to fall asleep. That's how both my kids fell asleep as infants.
Or rockIng him to sleep, wearing him around the house? Any of that stuff? Or are you just holding him in bed and letting him cry until he falls asleep?

My baby is 10 weeks and sometimes ill let her cry, not for long at all and not if she is screaming bloody murder. If I kno shes tired ill give it no more than a minute, and she usually just falls asleep.

6 months is the BARE minimum. If he's inconsolably screaming, making him CIO is a bad idea, a very bad one. I've witnessed a baby scream herself into a panic attack when I was younger.
It's NOT a pretty sight to see.

My DD went through that phase. Eventually it stopped.
I transferred her to her crib at 6 months, the first 3 nights were rocky, but I'd get up and rock her back to sleep, put her back in her crib.


Now she sleeps all 8-9 hours in her crib with no wake ups.

Quoting MommaSav2:" Younger than 6 months is too young. Have you tried letting nurse or have a bottle to fall asleep. That's ... [snip!] ... wearing him around the house? Any of that stuff? Or are you just holding him in bed and letting him cry until he falls asleep?"

Sometimes the bottle and walking and rocking just doesn't work with him. I'm not sure why. He doesn't like going to sleep because he fights it really hard so I assume that's his way of staying awake

Quoting XDaniGirl:" Sometimes the bottle and walking and rocking just doesn't work with him. I'm not sure why. He doesn't like going to sleep because he fights it really hard so I assume that's his way of staying awake"

Does he have a good routine? My boys were awful if I didn't follow a strict routine when they were babies.

Quoting XDaniGirl:" Sometimes the bottle and walking and rocking just doesn't work with him. I'm not sure why. He doesn't like going to sleep because he fights it really hard so I assume that's his way of staying awake"

My DD did this too. Idk if she outgrew it, or if it's because I don't even attempt to put her to bed until she's exhausted because she'll just scream.


Like, she literally has to be at the point where she can't even crawl more than a few steps without falling over before I can try. But it works lol.

<blockquote><b>Quoting XDaniGirl:</b>" Sometimes the bottle and walking and rocking just doesn't work with him. I'm not sure why. He doesn't like going to sleep because he fights it really hard so I assume that's his way of staying awake"</blockquote>



Are you keeping him awake for a good four hours or so before bedtime? If hes napping too late in the day it will make him fight sleep at night.

That's definitely too young. Experts say not before 6 months but I'd never let an infant cry. It may take some time but I don't think it's any harder to get your LO to sleep alone without letting them cry it out. A 4 month old is still very young, it's not a big deal if they need help to fall asleep for a little while. Get a good routine down, do a bath before bed, read, put on white noise or lullaby music. Make it very calming and soothing. Help LO fall asleep for a while and then lay him down. If he wakes up then pat his butt/back, rub his back/feet, sing etc. If he gets really upset then pick him up and do it again. He will get used to it and eventually you can just lay him down while he's drowsy and he'll fall asleep.