re: nice one

Idk who the father of this baby is either. Abortion has crossed my mind, but I never even seriously entertained the thought because I know I would regret it and it would kill me for the rest of my life. I had a miscarriage last yr at only 9 weeks along and it was the worst thing I've ever gone through and it still bothers me a lot and always will. I could never intentionally put myself through that because once it's done you can never go back and get that baby back.
I still have doubts sometimes but I know once he's here I will be so incredibly happy that I never aborted.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Boomy :</b>" I just really need to hear from someone who has been in my position and shared my beliefs. I am worried about the effect any action will have kn my mental state after."</blockquote>



I can that I never thought I would be open to the option for myself. But after I had my daughter my post pardum depression was so bad that i would actually panic at the though of another baby.
When she was about 8 months old we had a pregnancy scare and I knew for sure that I would be getting an abortion if the test was positive. I just couldnt have another baby at that point, I just wasn't ready emotionally or mentally. And I'm a stable married woman with a supportive partner. So that just goes to show you the span of people who are capable of being in your situation. It doesn't make you a bad person, it just makes you human.

Do what you think is best for your child and yourself..no one else. Can you handle being pregnant right now? The cost of having a baby..medical bills and whatnot? Make a pro con list.

I had an abortion. I didn't want to but thought it was best for me at the time. I was so obviously torn at planned parenthood that they almost wouldnt let me have it done. Eventually, they did. It messed me up for awhile. Looking back I think..I could have given it up for adoption or even raised it..but there's no point in doing that. At that point in my life..it's what I felt I needed to do.

I'm ok now. I have a wonderful little girl..who will be raised by an adult who had time to get a degree..time to mature into a person who can be a mother she deserves.

If you have the abortion..you will be upset. You will regret it. You will be ok eventually. Just remember that you already have a child who needs you. So, you have to be strong. You have to get help and talk to people so you can feel better. I didn't talk to anyone and that's where I had problems. The more I talked about it..the more I realized I did what I thought was right.

Do what YOU think is right.

And..best of luck.

Money isn't a problem. I live in the UK so I have no medical bills. I am employed at the moment, but if I had to give up my job I would actually recieve more money.

Although my family don't want me to have another child, they would suppoort me. They love my son, Adam and would do their best to make life easy for us.

I feel like I have no real reason to give up a child.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Boomy :</b>" Money isn't a problem. I live in the UK so I have no medical bills. I am employed at the moment, but ... [snip!] ... They love my son, Adam and would do their best to make life easy for us. I feel like I have no real reason to give up a child."</blockquote>




Five days ago you said you had no job.

There is an ongoing issue. I am still on maternity.

Quoting Boomy :" Money isn't a problem. I live in the UK so I have no medical bills. I am employed at the moment, but ... [snip!] ... They love my son, Adam and would do their best to make life easy for us. I feel like I have no real reason to give up a child."

If you have money and can afford a child, your family will accept and help support you and all that... You don't feel you would need to give up a child... why are you in the position to be pressured into an abortion?

Quoting Boomy :" Money isn't a problem. I live in the UK so I have no medical bills. I am employed at the moment, but ... [snip!] ... They love my son, Adam and would do their best to make life easy for us. I feel like I have no real reason to give up a child."

Well sweetheart if you have family support then its up too you, family does make a difference. I hope you find the answer you are looking for.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Boomy :</b>" Money isn't a problem. I live in the UK so I have no medical bills. I am employed at the moment, but ... [snip!] ... They love my son, Adam and would do their best to make life easy for us. I feel like I have no real reason to give up a child."</blockquote>

Well then why is this a question?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:</b>" If you have money and can afford a child, your family will accept and help support you and all that... ... [snip!] ... all that... You don't feel you would need to give up a child... why are you in the position to be pressured into an abortion? "</blockquote>




My family would support me. Eventually. When there was a child rhat they could do nothing about. But as it stands everyone is on my case tellig me that I should get rid of it.

Quoting Boomy :" <blockquote><b>Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:</b>" If you have money and can afford a child, ... [snip!] ... was a child rhat they could do nothing about. But as it stands everyone is on my case tellig me that I should get rid of it."

I don't understand why. Because you are unsure of who the father is? If you are financially stable, want this child and know that they will come around in the end, then just ignore their comments for now.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Boomy :</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:</b>" If you have money and can afford a child, ... [snip!] ... was a child rhat they could do nothing about. But as it stands everyone is on my case tellig me that I should get rid of it."</blockquote>



Then telll them to smurf offf....

One of the potential fathers is a rapist. This is my dads main issue. My mother has issues with the fact that I don't know who the father is. My sister is more worried about how Adam will suffer. I have been mentally unstable for years. And will be dealing with two young children on my own (my entire family works).
So I will have support when the child arrives. But none while pregnant.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Boomy :</b>" One of the potential fathers is a rapist. This is my dads main issue. My mother has issues with the fact ... [snip!] ... two young children on my own (my entire family works). So I will have support when the child arrives. But none while pregnant."</blockquote>




I will never understand the having support while pregnant thing. There is nothing anyone can really do for you, even if you had support. If you want the child, talk to them and tell them it isn't up to them so they can be happy for you or they can stay away. When baby is here you can get DNA tests done.

Quoting JiLLiAN.:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Boomy :</b>" One of the potential fathers is a rapist. This ... [snip!] ... tell them it isn't up to them so they can be happy for you or they can stay away. When baby is here you can get DNA tests done."

this!