Cheaters.

I know these two couples...were good friends with the one couple. I just found out last night that the wife we are close with cheated with the husband in the other couple; her husbands best friend, and she's now pregnant.

Im completely crushed and baffled by this and Im unsure of how to offer support to either...should I just back out??

If shes yourfriend and you wantto support her, do it. You dont have to agree with the situation to be her friend. Good luck

i would back out.. it is none of anyone's business if they choose to talk to you about it just hear them.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Tea Bag McGee:</b>" i would back out.. it is none of anyone's business if they choose to talk to you about it just hear them."</blockquote>




This just stay out of it.

i would back out of the situation yikes thats really tough

Yikes, that's a tough one. I would stay out of it though. If they come to you, just listen. You don't have do anything more than that.

Are you close? Are you comforrable being involved? Confided in? How do YOU feel about it?
Set boundaries based on YOUR needs. Do you want to still associate with this person? If so, do you want to be 'supportive'? If you do, then do it. if you don't- tell her it makes you uncomfortable & would prefer it be a subject you do not discuss. Set yourself up for success by assesing your feelings and follow your instincts. do what feels right.

My BFF has been making poor decisions like that as well, and I've separated myself from her. We're still friends but I don't support her behavior.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rd.:</b>" My BFF has been making poor decisions like that as well, and I've separated myself from her. We're still friends but I don't support her behavior."</blockquote>


Yes its awful. The wife that cheated is such a good spirited sweetheart aswell. I guess the spouses are sticking together but im told an abortion is very likely. I dont agree with anything in the situation-its a mess. I cant imagine what I would do...I do think an abortion is the best choice i guess but as adults they knew what they were doing. All I can imagine is I would need a friend still, so I texted her telling her if she needs to talk that im here. She has a 3 y/o with her hubby and the other couple has a 4 and 3 y/o.

Im still having such a hard time digesting this....

You still need your friends, even when smurf gets hard, that's when you need them the most.

It's a terrible feeling when your 'friend' bails on you when times get hard and you need a shoulder/support most of all.

<blockquote><b>Quoting forgive-n let*love:</b>" You still need your friends, even when smurf gets hard, that's when you need them the most. It's a terrible ... [snip!] ... It's a terrible feeling when your 'friend' bails on you when times get hard and you need a shoulder/support most of all."</blockquote>




This!