Quoting nikkigoodbear:" oh i never let him cry i always go and pick him up as soon as he starts cry but my finace get mad and ... [snip!] ... we do have a swing but it's not put together yet i will def be getting that put together tomorrow and going to the book store"
Your fiance is insane! You cannot spoil an infant. Babies do not comprehend manipulation until they are near one year of age - sometimes later than that. My husband was the same way until I showed him some research on why it was not okay to use the cry-it-out method (at least for me. some moms do it and that is their prerogative, though like I said, it shouldn't be used until 6 months to a year of age.) Care for the baby however you want to and do not let him dictate how you do - for most mothers it is instinctual to pick up a crying baby. For most men it is not because throughout most of human history it has not been their place. Nurture the hell out of your baby just like you have been. :-) You can NOT spoil a baby. Toddlers yes. Babies no.