no BF baby, comfort nursing

i think my nipple is going to fall off lol, poor baby dont feel good though.

If I read this right.... you bottle feed... but you're letting your baby "nurse" to comfort when you have no milk.

Just my opinion, I think that's weird.

Quoting Evelynns Mama!:" If I read this right.... you bottle feed... but you're letting your baby "nurse" to comfort when you have no milk. Just my opinion, I think that's weird."

Thats not weird...
babies need comfort to and if she enjoys it why not! The bond is half the point of breastfeeding regardless of if the milk is there or not. In fact it will probably stimulate her milk supply which is awesome! Its really healthy for mom and baby. I think its really cute and wonderful!
Heck she may even be getting an oz or two out you never know! :]

Quoting EpicThunderCat!:" Thats not weird... babies need comfort to and if she enjoys it why not! The bond is half the point ... [snip!] ... for mom and baby. I think its really cute and wonderful! Heck she may even be getting an oz or two out you never know! :]"

I don't know, that's just my opinion.
I wouldn't even think of doing that, If I didn't have milk.
That'd be awesome if her milk came in, but after 3 months? I don't know.

Why not use a pacifier?

Quoting Evelynns Mama!:" I don't know, that's just my opinion. I wouldn't even think of doing that, If I didn't have milk. That'd be awesome if her milk came in, but after 3 months? I don't know. Why not use a pacifier?"

Yeah you can always re-lactate. There are woman who adopt babies and go on to nurse them. Latching is the best way to stimulate milk supply. Kellymom even says that on their website. I am not sure if she is trying to re-lactate but even if she isn't the bond still helps the baby to. There are woman who have extremely low milk supplies who use an SNS and latch regularly. Its pretty much the same thing.
Plus a paci is not human contact. Its more cold and distant. There is nothing like cuddling up on mommy for a baby. Plus it helps release moms prolactin chemical even if she doesn't have milk now if she keeps it up she probably will within a week or so of doing it regularly. As crazy as that sounds haha.
I think its beautiful. There are a lot of woman who can't breastfeed but crave the bond you know? Baby is happy and mommy is happy :> Sounds like a win win to me

Quoting EpicThunderCat!:" Yeah you can always re-lactate. There are woman who adopt babies and go on to nurse them. Latching ... [snip!] ... of woman who can't breastfeed but crave the bond you know? Baby is happy and mommy is happy :> Sounds like a win win to me"

Everyone has their own opinions.
I had problems with breastfeeding in the beginning, and I had milk, I just pumped.
In that time, I barely tried to breastfeed, because if it wasn't working for her, what's the point?
I wouldn't have ever tried, if I didn't have milk.
There are other ways to bond with your baby, or than letting it "nurse" when you have no milk, or no intentions of WANTING to breastfeed rather than formula feed as you are now.

If the baby latches, and you're going to let it nurse on you...why wouldn't you have done that from the beginning?
I just don't see it, I guess.
I am by no means trying to be a bitch...

Quoting Evelynns Mama!:" Everyone has their own opinions. I had problems with breastfeeding in the beginning, and I had milk, ... [snip!] ... wouldn't you have done that from the beginning? I just don't see it, I guess. I am by no means trying to be a bitch..."

I know you aren't. There are other ways to bond with baby but nothing is the same as skin to skin contact which breastfeeding provides a lot of. Lactating is really hard but it is not all or nothing. Idk, its a normal maternal thing to crave that bond. Many woman can't breastfeed and either regret it or want that bond so if that is what makes them happy then it makes them happy. It's not like baby isn't happy so I don't really get why it is weird.
I believe she wanted to re-lactate at one point and if so, this is 100% the right way to go. Pumping does not get as much milk out not even close. In fact, I couldnt pump worth poop but I breastfed my son for 13 months. Had my milk had dried up but he still latched I would have done comfort nursing. Something about it was just so beautiful to me. I had to supplement a couple of times and bawled my eyes out. I didnt like the idea of him cuddling up to an inanimate object because for babies eating is also bonding time.
In nature babies bond with their mothers a ton during breastfeeding granted that is not the only way to bond but its a pretty big one. Comfort nursing is just what babies need sometimes and it sounds like her baby likes it still. :]


OP! If you are planning to re-lactate I would latch her every couple of hours/everytime she is hungry. You can also take funagreek and blessed thistle and reglan in order to get more milk! I have heard wonder stories about reglan! <3

Quoting EpicThunderCat!:" I know you aren't. There are other ways to bond with baby but nothing is the same as skin to skin contact ... [snip!] ... also take funagreek and blessed thistle and reglan in order to get more milk! I have heard wonder stories about reglan! <3"

I actually get less milk now that I EBF. Like I said before, I pumped and fed her the first 3 months, and got about 6 oz out of each breast if I pumped every 3-4 hours. I have a lot of milk though, regardless. I just know I have less now, because at night, she will nurse and empty both breasts, and if she sleeps 9-10 hours, I am hardly engorged, or even full at all. When before, if I didn't pump for that period of time, I could soak through 3 shirts, my bra, and some on the bed., lol.

Everyone's different though, I feel like, if you're going to do that anyways, YEA it's awesome, but also take fenegreek and all that different stuff to go along with it.
I couldn't JUST do it to comfort, it'd feel weird to ME. I don't know why, that's just me...

Breastfeeding is a beautiful beautiful thing. But it's not breastfeeding when you don't have milk, or are trying to re-lactate.
I have no idea, whether she is or not, I was just posting my opinon.

Quoting Evelynns Mama!:" I actually get less milk now that I EBF. Like I said before, I pumped and fed her the first 3 months, ... [snip!] ... when you don't have milk, or are trying to re-lactate. I have no idea, whether she is or not, I was just posting my opinon."

Did you pump because your baby had latching issues? That happened to me >.<
My son didn't latch for the first 3 months and I also felt like when I started EBFing I had less milk in a sense. When I would pump in the beginning I pumped really well but once I stopped for a while I literally couldnt get like anything out but he was gaining weight so I know he was doing fine ha.

I read in one of her previous posts she wants to re-lactate. She may just not know of the herbs or maybe she cant afford em. I still think its cute XD Idk. I guess I can see how its weird but I view the bonding is just as important if not more so then the actual milk.

Quoting EpicThunderCat!:" Did you pump because your baby had latching issues? That happened to me >.< My son didn't latch ... [snip!] ... cute XD Idk. I guess I can see how its weird but I view the bonding is just as important if not more so then the actual milk. "

Well, she was in NICU for 7 days. She would ALWAYS fall asleep while nursing and not eat much at all. I was not educated on breastfeeding well at all, either. She was dehydrated and what not, due to not eating enough and sleeping instead because she was lethargic from having jaundice bad. In order for her to gain properly, and get rid of the jaundice, mixed with my anxiety(worried she wasn't eating enough) I decided to pump instead. One day, I decided to try to nurse her again, in the middle of a pump session, and she latched right on, and ate A LOT. She loved it. Since that day, I always nursed her. (unless I had to go somewhere and she got hungry) or when I didn't feel comfortable nursing in public (which doesn't bother me anymore)

i nurse to comfort, i stoped breastfeeding him after 2 weeks because he would not latch properly and keeping up with pumping and healing from a c-section was too much for me to handle. he still does not latch properly but when he is being extremely fussy because he is over-tired or like last night over-tired and had a tummy ache nursing is the only way i can get himto calm down, he likes his binky sometimes and other times he wants his thumb, but nursing is the easiest and quickest way to get him to calm down, and i love having that bond with him, also i read online somewhere that regardless of wether or not you have milk, nursing can still release natural hormones that are good for baby.

Quoting *Mrs. Mallard*:" i nurse to comfort, i stoped breastfeeding him after 2 weeks because he would not latch properly and ... [snip!] ... somewhere that regardless of wether or not you have milk, nursing can still release natural hormones that are good for baby."

If you do decide to relactate this would be a perfect time mama. :] Just letting you know. There are great support herbs and you can take reglan in order to get your supply going again. Some woman whom have never had babies breastfeed adopted children. Its possible no matter how old your baby is.

http://kellymom.com/bf/got-milk/relactation/