Would you leave your husband if you kept finding him sending emails and texts to his ex? And other people from Craigslist? Theoretically if he had or hadn't met with them. People keep pushing and pushing me to stay with him ONLY because I have 2 kids. IMO, I only have one life to live and I'll be damned if I'm miserable because of one man who can't control himself or communicate to any degree

"Think of the children," is often a cop out, I think :/ Your kids will pick up on you not being happy. Children aren't stupid lol. Honestly, you need to do what's going to be best for you and your family and if he's going out and communicating with others, but not you, that's a huge red flag. Even if he doesn't cheat, the intention sounds like it's there.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Bogey Woman:</b>" "Think of the children," is often a cop out, I think :/ Your kids will pick up on you not being happy. ... [snip!] ... communicating with others, but not you, that's a huge red flag. Even if he doesn't cheat, the intention sounds like it's there."</blockquote>



Can anyone get iMessages and media? I can't post pictures but I have few examples

to me trying to cheat is cheating wether he gets his nut off or not. just think about your kids how would you feel if their so did what yours is doing. if it makes you pissed off then leave. kids will grow up thinking that smurf is how relationships are supposed to work. just staying for your kids is wrong. working harder at it bc you have kids is commendable but you have to have good things there too. a happy momma makes happy babies

Quoting Sophie's dairy cow:" to me trying to cheat is cheating wether he gets his nut off or not. just think about your kids how would ... [snip!] ... harder at it bc you have kids is commendable but you have to have good things there too. a happy momma makes happy babies"

EXACTLY.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sophie's dairy cow:</b>" to me trying to cheat is cheating wether he gets his nut off or not. just think about your kids how would ... [snip!] ... harder at it bc you have kids is commendable but you have to have good things there too. a happy momma makes happy babies"</blockquote>



I was extremely depressed. He only wanted to talk to me about his friends private lives and sex
Sex was only about him. I get that he works. I smurfing get it. But he is a PATHETIC husband. I couldn't get the bills paid without bouncing checks because he would not communicate that he took money out or used checks for stuff. He wasn't involved actively.. I was going through serious issues and he turned it against me instead of helping me. His family hates my guys and is siding with him.

With everything else you post, I'd just leave him

You don't need him and staying together for the kids is one of the worst ideas ever

Hell yeah I would leave. Obviously he doesnt care or respect you. Eventough many people will say is no big deal but for me it is.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kelly&Coralie:</b>" With everything else you post, I'd just leave him You don't need him and staying together for the kids is one of the worst ideas ever"</blockquote>



I stayed last year when he royally smurfed up the first time. I'm at a point that I don't care if I'm homeless. I want to get away from him and his family. My grandparents of course don't see things for what they are.

Quoting Gir!:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Sophie's dairy cow:</b>" to me trying to cheat is cheating wether ... [snip!] ... through serious issues and he turned it against me instead of helping me. His family hates my guys and is siding with him."

me and my so are going through the whole his family hates me thing. he treated me like smurf for a few months. now they are treating him like smurf for not leaving me. we are healing. things can get better but my so at least works hard has never cheated and most of the time he is generous in the bedroom. he thinks of me all the time. you have to have a good foundation to get through the bs. he just sounds like bs

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sophie's dairy cow:</b>" me and my so are going through the whole his family hates me thing. he treated me like smurf for a few ... [snip!] ... in the bedroom. he thinks of me all the time. you have to have a good foundation to get through the bs. he just sounds like bs"</blockquote>



There is no foundation. The only thing that kept us together was the boys, period. There was no love

Quoting Gir!:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Sophie's dairy cow:</b>" me and my so are going through the ... [snip!] ... bs"</blockquote> There is no foundation. The only thing that kept us together was the boys, period. There was no love"

yeah id leave and make sure you take the boys too. think about it you are raising 2 womens husbands someday. you dont want them treating them and your future grandkids like a pile of smurf and you deserve to be happy too.

Quoting Gir!:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Sophie's dairy cow:</b>" me and my so are going through the ... [snip!] ... bs"</blockquote> There is no foundation. The only thing that kept us together was the boys, period. There was no love"

I firmly believe that you shouldn't be with someone if there's no love.

Quoting Bogey Woman:" I firmly believe that you shouldn't be with someone if there's no love."

exactly bc then it turns to resentment and hate.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Gir!:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Sophie's dairy cow:</b>" me and my so are going through the ... [snip!] ... bs"</blockquote> There is no foundation. The only thing that kept us together was the boys, period. There was no love"</blockquote>




This makes me think you should leave. If there's no love at the very least there should be respect and it seems he has none for you and you are quickly losing any you had for him.