Quoting DeanJade&Maksims Momma:" She's in that early pre teen stage... itts just lazyness... I remember cups piling up in my room because ... [snip!] ... motivate her in begining, my kids are young so they work for *happy faces* on chart and the occasional ice cream truck raid..."
I wish a happy face would be enough! But I remember being a slob too. But I got punished for it. I also got an allowance.
We tried the allowance. 10 bucks a week if her room was clean and dishwasher taken care of. She would rather have no money.
Punishments don't work because then she would just go to her mom's and stay there.