I have a friend that I've been friends with since she was in 6th grade and I was in 7th grade so like 8 years now? anyways she's been in this horrible relationship for about 2 years now. he's now 20 but was 19 when they got together and he was nothing but a drunk who didn't work and was always picking fights with her. They got engaged like 2 months after being together and they broke it off several times, badly. It even went as far as him taking her ring off her finger and throwing it in the fire. He's made her cry almost everyday they've been together and she's never told me a single good thing about him at all really. She has a little boy from a different man who's 4 years old so it just makes their relationship more complicated and worse because its setting a bad example for him. So since day 1 I've always been on her side and supported her, been there when she needed someone to talk to and always backed her up. Well now her and this guy are having a baby she's 14 weeks as of today and they've already broken up like once a week since she found out she was pregnant. She's down 30lbs since she found out she was pregnant at 3wks because he's making her so upset she can't eat and when she does she just pukes it back up. I say down 30lbs but she was already really small when she got pregnant but right now she's only 95lbs. She was trying for this baby all along. She's been telling people that it wasn't planned but I know that it was. She wasn't on BC at all and she was asking me questions about how to get pregnant like how to track her ovulation days and about elavation after sex to keep the sperm inside longer and so on. So she got pregnant on purpose knowing the relationship they have is horrible, she even told me all the time that she hated it and wanted out and even moved out a few times. However she was only gone for a few days before moving back in with him with her son. and now they've been broken up for about a week and he's seeing someone else but she's still living with him with her son. I keep trying to still be there for her but I'm so tired of doing the pitty thing for her because she's putting everything out there on Facebook like today she posted a status about how her baby daddy 20 years olds new girlfriend is 27 years old and how she thinks its gross and called her a whore and said she needed to find someone else to be with and so on and I don't know. I'm just tired of hearing about it you know? She posts over 100 things all day long about them and then she's always texting me and complaining but never listens to anything I have to say and then today when I told her how I honestly felt by saying that I wasn't going to pitty her and that she just needs to try to move on and be strong for her kids she just blew up at me and told me to stay out of her life. Like really she's the one posting it all over facebook. I'm just so annoyed right now and pissed off. I wish she would have learned something the first time. She had her first son at 15 with a guy she wasn't even seeing exclusively and knew he didn't want a baby (but she claims it was on accident) and now he doesn't even see his son at all, the kid doesn't even know who his dad is or what he looks like really and now its gonna happen all over again because she has no self respect for herself and is immature and just wants to feel like an adult and not live at home with her parents and her son. Am I over reacting about this?
OMG and then someone else posted the exact same thing I've been telling her for weeks and she likes the comment. Someone that she told me months ago that she didn't even like. We've been friends for 8 years and this is how its all gonna end.
Sadly friends come and go. You can't help someone who won't help themselves. She also may love the pity sadly some people are like that, they love drama! Me personally I would be sad that a long time friendship was ending, but its probly for the best. You never know maybe after some time she will realize what a good friend you were to her. Good luck
Yeah I know I've had a lot of friends come and go over the years but with her even though we lost touch a few times we've always just kinda been there for each other. This time I just don't think its gonna happen again. I'm sad but I'm also really like pissed off cause I know she can do so much better then all of this. It was really dumb of her to put her self in this situation. She knew he wasn't really for a baby, I don't think she's even ready for another baby even though her sons 4 years old now.