parenting question

How do you give enough of you time to each kid so the other don't feel left out. before i had my son it was so hard to give my two step kids equal attention becuase they were bother older and i found things we all could do together and they still had one on one time, now that my son is here is needs alot of my attention. He was born a whole month early and just came home sunday, he is a very needy baby and alot of my time is spent taking care of him, i breastfeed and that also is time comsuming. my step daughter was telling her dad that she feels like i dom't love her anymore since the new baby is here and that not true at all it just really hard right now trying to give them all equal attention, she was the baby and now she feels he has takinng her place. like today was really hard for me i had to cook thanksgivng dinner for everyone while trying to tend my son and keep the kids happy but step daughter just wasn't happy becuase i wasn't playing with her the whole time so she went and told her dad how she feels and i told him that i feel bad that she feels that way and that i am doing the best i can but it's hard trying to do it all. well he got mad and went off the deep end that its not that hard to take care of a baby and two kids and that a newborn isn't even that hard to take care of and this that and the other, but what he don't get is is am the one doing it all, i do everything for our son and his kids the on'y thing he does is play with them. so my question is how do you give all of your kids equal attention so the other don't feel left out and how do you keep yourself from not getting so stressed out

You need to talk to her about her feelings. Its perfectly normal and she needs to have her feelings validated. Explain about the baby and him having special needs but that you still love her just as much. Try to have DH watch the baby for a few hours and take her out on a special "date". Let her help with the baby.

I have talked two and told her that i still love her and will always love her but she just dosen't seem to get it. I've tried the whole helping with the baby thing and she she will for a little bit but then she wants me to go off and play with her and when i can't she will get mad and cry. it gets to be very stressful around here trying to balance everything on my own. like last i was up with the baby until 5 this morning then not even hour mins after i lay down to go to sleep my fiance wakes me up becuase he decides he wants to have sex becuase weren't able to last night and bout time i do get back to sleep i have to get right back up becuase the baby and the kids wake up and its the same thing all over again

Quoting nikkigoodbear:" I have talked two and told her that i still love her and will always love her but she just dosen't seem ... [snip!] ... i do get back to sleep i have to get right back up becuase the baby and the kids wake up and its the same thing all over again"

1) Tell the man NO if you are that tired
2) Have him help more when he is home
When you talk to her what does she say? Have you had any special time with just her since the baby was born? What about dad is he having special time with the older girls? Part of it is just going to be an adjustment and her realizing she isnt the baby anymore.

Quoting Jennybananna:" 1) Tell the man NO if you are that tired 2) Have him help more when he is home When you talk to her what ... [snip!] ... special time with the older girls? Part of it is just going to be an adjustment and her realizing she isnt the baby anymore. "

Telling him no dosen't work, it will either start a fight or he will just do it anyway so just to avoid all of that i just do it. the only thing he does when he is home is play with the kids he will play video games with his son or whats ever games with his daughter, he will help sometimes with his older other then that everthing is left on me. i was able to spend some one on one time with her while my baby was in the hospital but every since he came home sunday i haven't been able to get out with just her.