Quoting sambugjoebear:" You definitely need to have a one-on-one heartfelt talk with your husband about what you're doing, how ... [snip!] ... where you're coming from. He's gotten a lot better at keeping himself in check so he doesn't spend too much time playing."I have to remind my husband a lot too. He is pretty good at helping me, but at first I had to have a heartfelt conversation with him. He has 4 children (my stepkids) and works 40 hours a week. I am not working so we don't have to pay a babysitter. But because I am home, and he is at work, I felt obligated to do everything around the house and with the kids. But because of all the activity I had put myself through, I was put on bedrest and almost lost my baby girl. I have gone through 2 miscarriages due to stress and too much activity. Brandy, you really need to be careful and stress to your husband what could happen if he doesn't start helping out. It could be a danger to both you and your unborn baby, which in turn will affect him and your other son in a very negative way. If he doesn't agree with you, ask if he will agree to seeing a marriage counselor and getting a third party's opinion on the situation at hand. It takes 2 giving a complete 100% on both sides to make a successful relationship. It takes 2 to make a baby. So it should take 2 preparing for and caring for the baby and other members of the family.