Quoting forgive-n let*love:" I hard core wedding planned from August until mid-September, buying things.. tried/found my dress.. we ... [snip!] ... (once miscarriage was confirmed) then stopped thinking/talking about it all together. Stopped wearing my ring & all."sounds like you're keeping a back up guy just in case. that's not terrible but it means you can't really give your SO a fair shake. I'm sorry about your m/c but it does sound like a lot of off and on again. Do you love SO? Can you see yourself married to him, able to work really terrible problems out together? The first few years are the absolutely WORST for a marriage, it's so hard and trying. Are you prepared for that with him? I hate to say it, but in all honesty if you keep thinking and kinda stringing along the notion of the "grass is greener" you really won't be able to work on your SO 'ship 100%. You should really sit and think about what you want out of your life, your kids, what you can handle, can't handle, etc. Set up a list, pro and cons, expectations, evaluate your SO 'ship now and in the past and see if you can work it out or if it's time to quit it. I'm sorry it's gonna be a hard decision no matter what but if you're having doubts.... don't marry the guy just yet.
Quoting pilot Jess:" <blockquote><b>Quoting forgive-n let*love:</b>" we broke up from June 11- July 30, ... [snip!] ... job and no where to go by my moms basement with a baby, and I started an awesome new life. You can do it too, if you need to."I have a 4y/o, 2y/o and literally no where to go. He pays ALL my bills, i make about $120/week serving (4-5 days a week)- but its crap. Im terrified. Im also not sure if its just all worked up from the 'loss? I just dont know anymore
Quoting *Super*Mom*:" <blockquote><b>Quoting forgive-n let*love:</b>" I know it's not right to stay becuz ... [snip!] ... my ass off for my son and I and I got my own place and got my s*** together. You're capable of anything you set your mind to."No relatives have room for me and two kids. No friends do either, only two of my friends actually have their own place (who im really close with) and theyre 1bedrm apts. My brother is @ my moms, or else there would be room there. I think the 2nd guy is just filling some kind of void i have, because theres no 'serious relationship' going to come of it. I need a better job first. I work 5 days a week (5-6hr shifts, serving) and *just figured this out on my pay today* Average- $90/week. Thats smurfin' terrible. It literally pays for gas in my car and some food shopping because my bf makes $65k/year and pays EVERYTHING.