any mothers whose husband is in the military?

so my fiancee is planning on joining the NAVY. I'm ok with his decision in wanting to go, BUT, i just wanted to get some advice or some opinons from mothers supporting their husbaands while theyre on duty and have kids in the picture. I have two kids already, a 1year old, a three year old and expecting another. Any thoughts? Thanks you.

Thousands of others do it. I don't have kids but I can speak from growing up with a parent in the Army and being married to a soldier for 3 1/2 years. It has its ups and downs, good and bad things. It's basically what you make of it.

DH is Marine Corp and it is extremely hard. You are alone a lot. He will basically be married to the Navy. I am thrilled DH is getting out in 2 weeks. I am over this crack. Good luck though. I do suggest if you guys are already engaged to get married before he signs the papers and leaves. It will be so much easier.

We moved a few times when I was a kid. I loved it. I love it as a spouse (even though we haven't PCSed during our marriage).

My husband is in the Navy. We have a 17 month old son and a daughter on the way. He will be deploying to Afghanistan middle of next year and i'll be raising two kids under two with no family to help. It's a great life though, it's offered us such amazing opportunities.

Quoting 𝓪utumn𝓪l:" Thousands of others do it. I don't have kids but I can speak from growing up with a parent in the Army ... [snip!] ... being married to a soldier for 3 1/2 years. It has its ups and downs, good and bad things. It's basically what you make of it."

thank you, when i asked my brother in law , he said the exact same thing "its what you make of it" i agree 100% ;)

Has he spoken with a recruiter yet? Most if not all of the branches have a cap on the max amount of dependents you can have when joining. Usually its 2-3and the wife is considered a dependent.


My husband is USMC, its a sacrifice. It really depends on their job too. Some never deploy or train but they can work long hours so its all a toss up. My husband is away every month for training 1-3 weeks at a time and then deploys for 8 months out of the year. He just left in fact hes on his journey to Afghanistan. Its rough, my oldest is 4 and misses the hell out of him. My youngest doesnt realize because hes almost 6 months but he may not know my husband when he returns so they'll have to get to know each other again.

Quoting MOmmy of Angelsss:" thank you, when i asked my brother in law , he said the exact same thing "its what you make of it" i agree 100% ;)"

You're welcome.

Also, you're almost guaranteed to be stationed on the coast. Hopefully you like the water.   Will he be active duty or reserves?

Depending on his rank you could qualify for money to go to school free. You get free healthcare, the chance to live overseas (and paid to do it  ), a stable paycheck. He'll accrue 2.5 days of leave per month. My husband's going to be taking 80 days of leave and getting paid for it.

Quoting ♡Sarah♡ + 2:" Has he spoken with a recruiter yet? Most if not all of the branches have a cap on the max amount of dependents ... [snip!] ... because hes almost 6 months but he may not know my husband when he returns so they'll have to get to know each other again."

This, too.

You do what you can. Same as any other mother.
We're dealing with a deployment right now. Not out first, but our first since having Heathen. She's taking it harder than I am. But, we skype once a week, he calls once or twice a week. She has a Daddy doll and a Snuggle pillow that has his pictures on it.
And this time around, he's missed our anniversary and her birthday. Obviously missed Thanksgiving, and will miss Christmas, Valentine's and most likely my birthday.

wow, it all seems like alot to deal with but i guess you have to look at the brighter side of the situation.My fiancee just started to talk to a recruiter about his interests. He always wanted to go, to the Marines specifically, but now he definitely wants to go, to the Navy this time. I know the Navy allows up to 4 dependents. But i guess we shall see what happens from here. I will keep you girls posted if anything lol

Quoting Pirate Hooker {BAMW}:" You do what you can. Same as any other mother. We're dealing with a deployment right now. Not out first, ... [snip!] ... anniversary and her birthday. Obviously missed Thanksgiving, and will miss Christmas, Valentine's and most likely my birthday."

Yeah, this is our 4th as a family and DS is taking it much harder than I am, I think because hes old enough to realize how long he'll actually be gone. But even though the sadness and loneliness I can appreciate all the military life does offer.

Quoting MOmmy of Angelsss:" wow, it all seems like alot to deal with but i guess you have to look at the brighter side of the situation.My ... [snip!] ... Navy allows up to 4 dependents. But i guess we shall see what happens from here. I will keep you girls posted if anything lol"

Oh ok, see each branch is different  

I hope he gets to join if its something your family is hoping for.

As for the dependent issue--if it is--you could wait until after he enlisted to get married. That way he has only two until your third child's born.

Quoting 𝓪utumn𝓪l:" As for the dependent issue--if it is--you could wait until after he enlisted to get married. That way he has only two until your third child's born."

He'd still enter with 3 though, the spouse is considered a dependent