i need support/help

i am 7 weeks pp, and i hate my body i always have but for some reason i hate iot even more now(think its because of the extar stretch marks), but i really want to lose weight, for many reason, so i can feel better about myself, so im not an embarresment to my son when he is older and so my MIL will egt of fmy back about being fat(not that she can talk), and so (not that ne deserves it) that michael can like yeah not sure how to say it, not be embarrssed about me and so i can feel like i actually haev something to be attracted too because atm i dont think he is. I am currently 131.6kgs(there is 2.2 pounds to 1kg), i would if i can get under the 100kgs mark probly about 85-90kg if thats possible for my build, i am just under 6 foot tall about 5 11 i think, heres some pics

im the one in the middle, dont know if you can tell very well my body shape/size



i need help with good things that work and are fun and are easy to do while looking after my 7 week old son, if you have any ideas please share, im desprate, imo n the edge of crash dieting again and i dont want that as i am still giving my son breast milk when i can and its not only not good for him but aslo not good for me and it gets you know where

please help

Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwe honey I think you're gorgeous!! And since you had MY baby i'm the only one who matters right? Sorry just trying to make you smile. I have actually heard god things about the WiiFit. Idk if you have them over there yet or not, but people I have spoken to love it. Imagine losing weight from a video game system! Also walks help, take Kaidyn on some nice walks around your neighborhood? And you can diet, but don't CRASH diet. I did that once. I was like 12...and I didn't do it b/c I was fat I did it b/c I was scared of choking (I almost died...anyway) and they almost had to hospitalize me. Have you looked into healthy diets at all?

Why would you think he wouldn't be attracted to you cause of your weight? If anything he's a big person himself and if that lady on the left side of the picture is your mil she sure in the hell doesn't have room to talk.

WALKING MEL!!!

the cheapest way too and good for Kaidyn to get out and about and see and experience new sights and sounds...
It would help if you have a walking buddy...I tried to do it on my own and I found I needed to be with someone, not to havesomeone to talk to but to have someone to letdown if I didnt go..
DO they have a mothers group where you are, Maybe you could join amothers group...see your maternal health nurse at your 8 week visit and ask if she has community contacts that you can get in touch with... most shires our councils have them they are set up for support networks....
It might help also trying to find a way for you to meet other ppl and not be so reliant on Michael and the mega beast for friendship....

Quoting Weeble Wobble+Grant:“ Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwe honey I think you're gorgeous!! And since you had MY baby i'm the only one who matters ... [snip!] ... scared of choking (I almost died...anyway) and they almost had to hospitalize me. Have you looked into healthy diets at all?”

Joels daycarer bought a WiiFit and she said it really works the muscles... she was a bit sore after the first day so that may be an option....

BTW I didnt realise you were so tall!

Im a 5ft 3 midgit compared to you hun...

Yeah I'm only 5'2" lol I feel so short compared to EVERYONE

Quoting xXxTAMMIxXx:“ Why would you think he wouldn't be attracted to you cause of your weight? If anything he's a big person ... [snip!] ... big person himself and if that lady on the left side of the picture is your mil she sure in the hell doesn't have room to talk.”

no thats my mum lol, he hasnt said he isnt attracted to me i just feel that way

My bad..lol. I'm a big girl myself and i have had the same days you've had thinking my bf wasn't feeling me but, he must like something cause he is still around..lol.

don't crash diet while your breastfeeding! whatever you do! your son needs the nutrients, so you need to eat for him!

but um suggestions? thats hard. you could always get a jogging stroller and take him out with you. just walking/jogging can do a lot. you start out slow, not going for very long and build up your endurance until you're able to go longer and longer each day. thats probably the easiest thing to do while taking care of a kid unless you're willing to spend a lot of cash to get exercise equipment for in your house. but that can get pretty pricey.

also change up your diet. don't crash diet, but just make healthier choices. when you eat, eat smaller portions. drink more water and cut out soda (if you drink soda now) here at walmart we have flavored water with no sugar, calories, or carbs thats so tasty! i didn't have a hard time stopping with the soda when i found that as a replacement. cut down on processed foods, sodium, sugars. try to stick with fresh and natural stuff. like fruit and veggies. grilled meat instead of fried. whole wheat bread and pasta instead of white.

its a life style change that you have to stick to otherwise you'll probably just gain it back. so don't be unreasonable, try to find things you actually enjoy and can stick with. it may take a while to start seeing results but don't give up!

i don't do a strict diet or anything but when i have options i try to opt for the healthier choice. like the healthier salad dressing. or ketchup instead of mayo. the whole grain healthy cereal (but tasty!) instead of the sugary one.

breast feeding can be a great way to lose weight since the baby is taking some from you! so if you eat a little better and smaller portions and do walking or get some sort of exercise you could get some great results!

Quoting Joel's mum:“ WALKING MEL!!! the cheapest way too and good for Kaidyn to get out and about and see and experience ... [snip!] ... also trying to find a way for you to meet other ppl and not be so reliant on Michael and the mega beast for friendship.... ”

yeah we have mothers groups, but i dont have a drivers license(need to get it argh) and michael wouldnt take me, he hates taking me to things that i need to go too(like going to the hospital when i was pregnant), plus when im around new people i tend to put up a front and yeah very shy, witht he walking i would but i never think of getting the pram outta the car before he goes to work, and its so damn cold out now, ill drag it out before he leaves tomorrow and go for a walk and rug Kaidyn up nice and tight

Quoting xXxTAMMIxXx:“ My bad..lol. I'm a big girl myself and i have had the same days you've had thinking my bf wasn't feeling me but, he must like something cause he is still around..lol.”

i think he is just stay around for his son, cuz if he breaks it off then i move to the otehr side of the country(we are having alot of problems atm thinking about leaving him as well)

Quoting Weeble Wobble+Grant:“ Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwe honey I think you're gorgeous!! And since you had MY baby i'm the only one who matters ... [snip!] ... scared of choking (I almost died...anyway) and they almost had to hospitalize me. Have you looked into healthy diets at all?”

dont u need a WII to get that? cuz haha if u do it can stay in the shops haha, cant afford that, plus its jsut another video game for fat head to play

i have a wii=great! def worth the price for sure. and i have never had any vid. games. im an active person; and this is perfect for rainy days...combine that with walking and just eating healthy. not starving yourself...just portion control. eat till your full; not stuffed. LOTS OF WATER!


i lost 30 lbs by doing this; now thats before i got pregnant about a year ago...so i dont knwo yet how to lose the weight after the baby....

you could also try some workout videos so you can stay inside and get a workout.

PS. you are very gorgeous...