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I'm sorry your doctor blew you off when you were going through that.   That's awful. And I'm so sorry for your loss.
This time last year I felt the same way as you.. Actually I've only started feeling normal since we got pregnant again.. But I am paranoid of going through it again, and still really emotional some days. That is normal, and while it doesn't make it easier, there is something about knowing I was/am not alone that helps.


If you ever need to vent or someone to talk to feel free to PM me.
I am glad your husband is so supportive, a lot of men don't understand or don't know how to react.

Maybe you need to seek some grief counselling. I miscarried just over a year ago as well, it was very difficult for me. As scary as the thought of getting pregnant and potentially having the pregnancy fail early on is, you need to try to get past it. It will always linger in the back of your mind, but it does with any healthy pregnancy as well. Our minds always seem to play the horrible "what if" scenario. The baby you lost will always be precious to you, and you will love the next just as much. You don't know how things will go until you try, you deserve another opportunity to show yourself that you are capable of doing this, and if for some reason you aren't, please don't think poorly of yourself. You have so much love to give and any child would be lucky to be on the receiving end. My condolences and best wishes!

Im sorry. i felt the same way around holidays. Especialy mothers day. I never felt confident even with my healthy pregnancy, I still worry with my healthy baby, and I dont even want to try again because i feel blessed to have had this one and cant imagine the pain of having a miscarriage again. It is hard to stay strong, but the doctor is right, it does happen to a lot of women. He should have been more helpful with you for sure. I wish you the best success. and I hope things get easier with time.

I'm sorry for your loss OP. It does get better though. I've been through it 7 times and each time I got depressed. I couldn't even be happy each time I got pregnant because I felt like if I got my hopes up it would all come crashing down. I have a daughter now and I tell myself that it was meant to be this year. We may never know why we lose babies but I feel like when it is supposed to happen it will!!

Quoting Hannah.:" I'm sorry your doctor blew you off when you were going through that.   That's awful. And I'm so sorry ... [snip!] ... talk to feel free to PM me. I am glad your husband is so supportive, a lot of men don't understand or don't know how to react."

Thank you so much, no alot of men don't actually alot of people don't in general & what kills me the most is seeing people get pregnant & not even want the baby & take care of them like they should or there self while pregnant. I'm very much ready to TTC & so is my husband it's just that little voice in your head that tells you "what if it happens again" I really need to quit with all of this & stay calm because it won't help matters out at all. But I really do appreciate your talking to me & also the same goes for you if you need to vent.

Quoting mamastj:" Maybe you need to seek some grief counselling. I miscarried just over a year ago as well, it was very ... [snip!] ... You have so much love to give and any child would be lucky to be on the receiving end. My condolences and best wishes!"

Thank you. We are just going to let it happen, it'll happen when it's time & your right I can't let myself think any of this was my fault unless I knew I done something to cause it to happen ( in which I didn't ) so I do need to just keep telling myself that everything does happen for a reason & if my baby were to been born with something wrong with him/her I wouldn't want it to had to suffer through pain everyday of it's life that'd been wrong on my part. So in a way that does ease my mind that maybe that's why it happened and not just that I was young & so was my husband so we didn't deserve a baby, I feel that GOD wouldn't have done that cause everybody is capable of taking care of a baby if they can create one, just a matter if you will or not. But again I really appreciate you giving me advise it does help alot,

Quoting annabelle509:" Im sorry. i felt the same way around holidays. Especialy mothers day. I never felt confident even with ... [snip!] ... women. He should have been more helpful with you for sure. I wish you the best success. and I hope things get easier with time."

  thank you so much, this was sweet. Some days I feel so strong like today & other's i'm about to break.

Quoting Love Muffin:" I'm sorry for your loss OP. It does get better though. I've been through it 7 times and each time I got ... [snip!] ... it was meant to be this year. We may never know why we lose babies but I feel like when it is supposed to happen it will!! "

Your exactly right, also I'm very sorry for your losses, I know the pain you went through. I don't think it wouldn't have happened if it weren;t supposed to & that deeply kills me to say but I really wouldn't have wanted my baby to suffer in pain if it would have had the chance to make it.

Just remember, God won't give you something he doesn't think you can handle. There is a reason for everything. Wishing you the best!

Quoting mamastj:" Just remember, God won't give you something he doesn't think you can handle. There is a reason for everything. Wishing you the best!"

That is exactly right! Thank you