I dont want her to have to go through this!!

So i have 2 girls ages 3 and 4. The father of the 3 year old has raised my 4 year old since she 3 months old. We broke up over 2 years ago. When we broke up he continued to raise and care for her as if she was hos own. Her real father left when she was 2 weeks so she knows this man as daddy.... Always has. Well appaently he is mad at me and has decided that he is now only taking the 3 year old to get to me. He doesnt realize that ot makes no dofference to me of i have my
Kids or not; its not hurting me its going to hurt her. When he comes to pick up the 3 year old tomorrow how does he thknk my 4 year old is going to feel when she sees that daddy wants to take her sister but not her. I just dont want her to have to go through that kind of pain and stress wondering why daddy doesnt want her anymore. Ive tried calling him to talk things out like adults and he has no part in that. Ugghh whyyyy did i choose to reproduce with this immature smurf!!!??'n

poor baby girl.  

Aw, poor baby.   What a stupid jerk.

That's so sad. If he chose to let her call him daddy and all that he should live up to the name and leave her out of it.

What an smurf   I'm so sorry. Maybe you can have a special mommy-daughter day instead?

That it awful!  

that's really sad, but its not his kid. you cant really blame him. just let him see how sad she is, and how he feels after that!

so baby daddy #1, and baby daddy #2 are smurf heads, here's to #3?!

How awful.   I wish people would realize that it's the kids who get hurt, not the adults they THINK they're trying to screw over.  

Im so sorry. Hopefully he will see it's hurting her & not be an smurf. Poor baby. If he doesn't get her too just comfort her & do a mommy day. Make her feel like the little princess she is. Do hair paint nails & lots of girly stuff.. be strong for her mama good luck. I hope he does the right thing & stops being a jerk.

Quoting 1+1=4..maybe more..:" Im so sorry. Hopefully he will see it's hurting her & not be an smurf. Poor baby. If he doesn't get ... [snip!] ... hair paint nails & lots of girly stuff.. be strong for her mama good luck. I hope he does the right thing & stops being a jerk."

does the right thing? its not even his kid.

mom is just as much to blame here as "dad"

Tell her she can't go because you have something planned for her and then spend the day with her.

There's really nothing you can do. It's smurffy on his part, but if he never fully committed to you or adopted her, then she's not his daughter. I'm sorry that her heart is on the line, too, but that's completely his decision.

Quoting shes*almost*one!:" that's really sad, but its not his kid. you cant really blame him. just let him see how sad she is, and how he feels after that! so baby daddy #1, and baby daddy #2 are smurf heads, here's to #3?!"

I see your point, but they've been broken up for 2 years and he has continued to act as her father the entire time so it's pretty messed up for him to stop now. He's been her father for ALL of her memorable life

Quoting Chuck Bass:" I see your point, but they've been broken up for 2 years and he has continued to act as her father the ... [snip!] ... as her father the entire time so it's pretty messed up for him to stop now. He's been her father for ALL of her memorable life"

If I broke up with someone when my child was two, and they weren't the father of the child, and we weren't married/he didn't adopt the child, I wouldn't really see the point in continuing to let them be the father of my child. But that's just me.

Quoting Chroma Hex [+1]:" If I broke up with someone when my child was two, and they weren't the father of the child, and we weren't ... [snip!] ... adopt the child, I wouldn't really see the point in continuing to let them be the father of my child. But that's just me. "

Well thats up to the people involved, but I'm a firm believer that blood doesn't make a parent. I don't know how long exactly he was in her life, but if they have a kid together that is only a year younger than her, then i would say that at 2 years old he had been acting as her father for almost her entire life (1 year and 9 months, at least). When he continued to father his own daughter, he still fathered her as well. I just don't think he would have to be her biological dad for him to have formed that kind of bond with her, strong enough to keep being "daddy" to her. In that case, it's messed up for him to take out a a fight with the mom on her.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Chuck Bass:</b>" Well thats up to the people involved, but I'm a firm believer that blood doesn't make a parent. I don't ... [snip!] ... strong enough to keep being "daddy" to her. In that case, it's messed up for him to take out a a fight with the mom on her."</blockquote>




I completely agree with you. Op said he has been daddy to her since she was 3 months old. Its so sad he's doing this.