Thanks, ladies!!

I appreciate all of the help and advice.  

Maybe the new job would help. I would also consider counselling

Maybe your new job will help I'm not sure what other advice to offer you hopefully things work out for you good luck

I have dreams I'm in love with another man (we've been married almost 10 years) but I think it's the thrill of it and the something different from the norm I'm excited about.

I have no advice other than if you really feel that way, for everyones sake, probably best to move on.

I think a new job is great.

I think the grass is always greener on the other side.

Maybe it's the grass is greener syndrome? It's normal to miss meeting new people and getting that brand new shiny attention and all of that. But there's no guarantee it will work out and what if you end up screwing up the one real thing you've ever had? Idk, it seems complicated, maybe get that other job and see what it's like when your not around the other guy.

I'm thinking the same thing. I'll be curious what things feel like once I've got the other job and am away from him.

You were married so very young. I can't imagine. If I married "the man I loved" at that age, I would be married to a closeted gay man (my HS sweetheart didn't know he was gay).

No one can tell you what to do here, but personally I would try counseling first with dh. If it doesn't work out, I wouldn't be jumping into a new relationship right away. You are still really young, and coming into your own.

Good luck!

You have to do what you think is right but having an emotional affair IS cheating and that's not fair to your husband.

I know what I am thinking isn't fair to my husband. I feel like crap and am trying to figure myself out. I'm hoping the new job will do me more good than bad ya know?

<blockquote><b>Quoting ILOVEWINE:</b>" I think the grass is always greener on the other side."</blockquote>




Agreed

Puppy love doesn't last forever. If you got with this dude from work, chances are you wouldn't feel like you were "deeply in love" with him in five years, either.

relationships change and mature---it isn't flowers and butterflies forever. With anyone.

That said, you got married WAY too young and perhaps you aren't with the "perfect" guy for you right now. But you have a family and you owe it to them to try your best to make it work.

This is very common with young marriages, and a key reason why the majority of divorces happen to them. People rush into it when they really are feeling hormones, and lust, and then as life settles on you realize you really are not in love with that person. I would see how the new job treats things for you. But if you still are feeling it maybe its time to move on.

Get away from the guy at work if you want your marriage to work. Once you start your new job you will slowly start to forget about him.