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Prayers go out to you, sorry I cannot be of any help but I really do hope it all works out for you and your family

He needs to get into counseling. Im sorry you are going through this

Is he seeking any help for his condition, other than taking meds? If not.. I would almost demand it.. it's not fair that you have to do everything by yourself. Besides, if you don't find a solution soon, your relationship probably wont last.

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I know how tough it is to have to deal with someone with a mental illness. My mother & father both have mental illnesses & my childhood was rough because of it. I know it's hard, but don't up & leave him. That is the worst thing you can do at this point. If worse comes to worse, you may have to contact the nearest mental hospital & have him bakeracted. It took my mother several different medications & several stays in the metal hospital before she finally was put on a medication that got her mind right. Also, try to find a passion of his. My mother went with drawing/painting & it helped her when she got depressed, or angry. All of her feelings went into her art. This isn't going to be easy, especially with having 4 kids & struggling with money, but don't turn your back on him. He needs you...

Can any of your family help? Like could someone move in with you for a while to help or could your DH go stay with someone? Im not saying you should split up but idk maybe it would be easier if he wasnt there worrying you on top of everything else your dealing with...

Is he seeing a psychiatrist? Maybe he needs a med change the meds should be showing some improvement by now. Is there a hospital or a facility he can get into that will treat all aspects this could be a huge help they can give him counciling, monitor medication changes, show coping skills ect sorry my sister is kinda going through the same thing right now she's in a centre that's doing the same things

My friend went thru this very similar stuff. She ended up leaving him bc of it all. The mental illness, no job/motivation, counseling even court mandated n a restraining order didn't help. I'm sorry ure in this situation idk what to say to help just think it all out before u act I guess but if he isn't willing to get better but obv can go w friends then yeah I'd think bout leaving. Why stay n be unhappy mental illness or not. I don't have patience w ppl who use it as an excuse which kinda sounds like he is, IMO. Just do what u think is best for u n ur family. Good luck

I might be of better help, if you tell me what he was diagnosed with, and what medications he's on. It almost sounds like the meds are effecting him in a negative way. I know there are some meds I have been put on that made me more withdrawn than I was with none.

I am sorry you're going through this. I would look into any retail position, as most jobs are hiring for holiday help, mostly at night Honda on weekends.

If you need someone to talk to, pm me.

Also, is there anyway your husband can get on disability through his employer? Also, get some state assistance?

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<blockquote><b>Quoting Mommy to Boys!:</b>" He is. He goes weekly. Sometimes twice a week."</blockquote>



I'm sorry I didn't realize that.
Things like this take time unfortunately

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<blockquote><b>Quoting Mommy to Boys!:</b>" He was working through a temp agency so no insurance. Unemployment he cant recieve because he isnt ... [snip!] ... things he likes to do. He loves his yard, this summer he barely mowed, didnt trim bushes, no landscaping etc. That is not him."</blockquote>




He may need to be put into the hospital. Especially since its been quite some time since getting treatment. The meds probably aren't working like they should