Quoting heygirlheyyy♥:" Have you asked him why he smokes so much? Is e bringing in all the money? And at 20 weeks I had nothing for the baby, you're fine."
Doesn't matter if he's bringing in all the money. He should be prioritizing and not spending it on weed if he can't afford it. My fiance brings in all the money right now because I had to stop working during my pregnancy. You bet your sweet bippy that if he can't afford cigarettes or beer, he cuts back because our baby and our survival is more important than his wants
. We both make sacrifices so that she has everything that she needs.
As for not having anything at 20 weeks, I didn't either. However, it is stressful when you're getting down to the wire and have nothing. Second-hand places are great for getting things that are like new. We got our Pack N' Play with the bassinet insert second-hand for $20. You can also get gear like strollers (but I wouldn't get the carseat or infant bucket second-hand...you just never know) and high chairs. Also try craigslist for clothing. Lots of people sell big lots of clothing in specific sizes for cheap.
You can't get hooked on weed. It's not addictive. However, the need to zone out and not deal with life can be. He needs to get his priorities straight. What's going to happen when you have the baby and he wants his weed, but you're on your last diaper? Are you going to have to fashion one out of paper towels and duct tape? He needs to wake up to reality. It's not just about him anymore.