Hi guys!! Its been a long time since I've been on here! lol, but anyway, I have this friend, and he is married. They are currently in an "open marriage" and he wants to get with me, and I am unsure of how I feel! Like, I want to, but I am not some girl who sleeps with everyone. I mean it could be fun, he wants like a Friends with benefits thing, which I have never done... So what would you do? Any advice or tips is welcome! lol Thanks!

If you do it...you have to have a long talk with both of them...make sure they're both on the same page, make sure you know their limits and that they know your limits...the communication between you and them needs to be 100% clear, no doubts no questions unanswered.

hell no! i would never sleep with someone who is in a relationship even if it's "open"

Honestly, no. It's just too messy.

I wouldn't personally for a few reasons.

One would be that I wouldn't want to harm the friendship. I don't see friends with benefits working out often.

Also, with the whole marriage thing, I'd be worried if they aren't secure in that lifestyle. As in, if they just started it, it might not be for them, and you could end up being the "whore he slept with" if his GF changes her mind.

Lastly, personally, I'm not into no strings sex anyways. If you are that's great! But I probably wouldn't in that case because it just wouldn't be the sort of relationship I'd want.

No! An open marriage isn't a marriage. They might as well get divorced and then you can do what ever you want.

I, personally, couldn't do it. He's married and even if THEY are okay with it, I would feel like it's morally wrong on my part and could never so it.

Quoting Devil Duckie:" No! An open marriage isn't a marriage. They might as well get divorced and then you can do what ever you want. "

Eh... that's not always true. I have friends that have been married for over five years and they have an open marriage.

Quoting Devil Duckie:" No! An open marriage isn't a marriage. They might as well get divorced and then you can do what ever you want. "

Did they get married?

Then congratulations, it's a marriage! It may not be the TYPE of marriage you like, but if they're married. It's a marriage.

Thanks guys! This was definitley more along my thoughts, I just didn't wanna be a bitch or whatever for saying no. I am not into the "no strings attached" business...not my thing. I have never done it so I was thinking...Hey! here is a chance, but so many things could happen. NOt worth the risk!

Personally, no I would not. But, I would go by his wife first to make sure that it is in fact an open marriage and if yes, then go for it.

I would do it if I was just sexually attracted to him and if all three could have an understanding of rules to follow.

Quoting Y O . M A M A:" Hi guys!! Its been a long time since I've been on here! lol, but anyway, I have this friend, and he is ... [snip!] ... like a Friends with benefits thing, which I have never done... So what would you do? Any advice or tips is welcome! lol Thanks!"

Yes I have been in open relationships before

Quoting she nan igans:" Did they get married? Then congratulations, it's a marriage! It may not be the TYPE of marriage you like, but if they're married. It's a marriage. "

nope. Either you get married or you don't and you're ok to sleep around. I don't care what kind a smoke screen you throw on it. NOT a marriage.

I am in an open marriage, been married for 3 years now and no issues. As long as everyone is on the same page and know their boundaries, then i don't see a problem.