re: last names, adoption, custody.

He claimed all the of us last year because he wouldn't sign the divorce papers til he got his money. So in Feb after he got his taxes he signed everything. Half the time he doesn't want then. I never had my Dad so I'm the one who had him see them and so the girls can see his parents. I'm not saying he has to have rights to be the father figure, he's brought this up to me. He wants to do it mainly because my ex pushes me around and constantly makes threats of not bringing my kids back to me

Quoting [P&T's Mama]- Baking#3:" He claimed all the of us last year because he wouldn't sign the divorce papers til he got his money. ... [snip!] ... to me. He wants to do it mainly because my ex pushes me around and constantly makes threats of not bringing my kids back to me"

he can threaten you all he wants. and if he doesn't bring them back, you can call the cops and they will take them back. he cannot keep them if you have documents stating you have sole custody.

Quoting [P&T's Mama]- Baking#3:" He claimed all the of us last year because he wouldn't sign the divorce papers til he got his money. ... [snip!] ... to me. He wants to do it mainly because my ex pushes me around and constantly makes threats of not bringing my kids back to me"

You seem to be adding more and more to the story trying to make your ex husband seem like a smurf parent. Which still doesn't change the fact that until you guys are married and your ex husband agrees to it an adoption is NOT going to happen.


If you have sole custody LEGALLY ( meaning through court) he can't keep the girls unless he wants to go to jail for kidnapping.

Quoting [P&T's Mama]- Baking#3:" He claimed all the of us last year because he wouldn't sign the divorce papers til he got his money. ... [snip!] ... to me. He wants to do it mainly because my ex pushes me around and constantly makes threats of not bringing my kids back to me"

So why do you let him have visits????
If you want the grandparents to see your girls just invite them over to your house without him for a playdate or supper!

Quoting [P&T's Mama]- Baking#3:" He claimed all the of us last year because he wouldn't sign the divorce papers til he got his money. ... [snip!] ... to me. He wants to do it mainly because my ex pushes me around and constantly makes threats of not bringing my kids back to me"

He did nothing illegal tax wise then. You were still married. If you didn't want to file jointly, don't sign the return. But, just a heads up. When he files for this years taxes, he's going to try to do the same thing. If you were married even 1 day out of the year, you have to file either jointly, or separated.

okay ladies I got it we have to be married in order for him to have parental rights or for him to even try to get rights to the girls. He had offered a few times to walk out of they're lives because he said it was better I didn't see it that way because my girls love him. Yes a few incidents have been reported his mom was even in on one. I never go against the courts. I'm the one who put them in the divorce and due to his behavior they have decreased and he's never argued with me why cuz he knows why. We do plan on getting married but we want to maybe next year if not later. I was curious tho on everything so thank you ladies.

I'm not trying to make him into the smurf parent I'm just telling a few things. I'm not perfect I just wanted some advice. I get it we have to be married first and he gas to sign over his rights and it's in the divorce that once I move away I claim them. I moved in August. I'm not saying he did taxes illegally I'm just saying his main reason for not wanting to give me sole custody at the time the divorce was occurring

So thanks ladies

Be careful of what you do. I haven't seen my LO in a year and a half because her father is a POS and won't let me see her. He has custody, I still have rights although I might aswell not. I wouldn't wish this sepparation on anybody. Not even my BD. When I get my custody back, I'm still going to let him see his child. Call me stupid. Like I said, just be carful. It can easily backfire on you once your LO get older and wonder why they didn't see daddy. Just make sure it's a good enough excuse.

Quoting Brandie:]:" Be careful of what you do. I haven't seen my LO in a year and a half because her father is a POS and ... [snip!] ... easily backfire on you once your LO get older and wonder why they didn't see daddy. Just make sure it's a good enough excuse."

Hey are you in TX?

Quoting mamaluvsher4babies:" Hey are you in TX?"

I am.

Quoting Brandie:]:" Be careful of what you do. I haven't seen my LO in a year and a half because her father is a POS and ... [snip!] ... easily backfire on you once your LO get older and wonder why they didn't see daddy. Just make sure it's a good enough excuse."

That's awful  

The courts won't do anything about it?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Brandie:]:</b>" Be careful of what you do. I haven't seen my LO in a year and a half because her father is a POS and ... [snip!] ... easily backfire on you once your LO get older and wonder why they didn't see daddy. Just make sure it's a good enough excuse."</blockquote>




Im sorry. But I'm not trying to take them away. Never. Was just curious how he would get rights (bf) I'm the one who was pushing my ex to continue to see them I know what it's like to not know your Dad.

Quoting Lizplustwo:" That's awful   The courts won't do anything about it?"

Are you kidding? All they care about is money.

Quoting Lizplustwo:" That's awful   The courts won't do anything about it?"

depending on the state NOPE! Oklahoma is real bad about it. California is real good about it. I dont know about TX. I heard they were pretty bad about it also. When I tell people my husbands story , most the time I get ( from women) oh well he needs to get a lawyer..umm we have spent thousands we dont have. the money to do it. The family laws are nasty out there and until you (in general) walk in the other persons shoes people dont realize it.

Quoting Brandie:]:" Are you kidding? All they care about is money."

You are 100% correct! ..its nice to see another women who knows what the hell is going on..It's not fair to non-custodial parents in many states