What would you do?

If you paid child support to your ex, $1200 a month for 2 kids and your ex always complained they couldnt afford new school shoes, appointments to a speech therapist, school fees etc but is frequently going on overseas holidays and recent had plastic surgery?

What would u do? How would u feel?

I'd be upset, regardless of the amount paid. I'm sorry, kids shoes and Doctors/Therapist come before Boob jobs, or trips to Tahiti.

Take her to court.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jas ♥:</b>" Take her to court."</blockquote>




THIS

I think I would probably ask the court for permission to buy clothes/shoes, etc and insurance and then have it deducted from the support if I could.

I feel sorry for my cousin as its happening to him. $1200 a month is a lot to put towards essentials and his ex clearly isnt doing it. She even asked my auntie to buy one of the boys new shoes because she couldnt afford it   She is off to bali tomorrow for the 3rd time this year. A lot of men have been known to quit there job, then they dont have to pay so much (which imo is wrong) but he is now married and has a mortgage and is struggling because he pays so much

She also lets the kids stay home from school often and her oldest is failing the first grade!

Court and ask for a running total of what the $1200 is spent on every month. Sounds like she's taking the pI$$

Quoting Mrs Somerhalder:" I feel sorry for my cousin as its happening to him. $1200 a month is a lot to put towards essentials ... [snip!] ... because he pays so much She also lets the kids stay home from school often and her oldest is failing the first grade!"

He should take her to court and have the child support assessed. Why is he paying so much anyway? Is this based on his income or on her needs for the children? Also, tell him to contact the school and get the school records of all the absences. If anything, I'd be filing for physical custody of the children since she clearly doesn't want to take care of them. She just wants the CS.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jas ♥:</b>" He should take her to court and have the child support assessed. Why is he paying so much anyway? Is ... [snip!] ... I'd be filing for physical custody of the children since she clearly doesn't want to take care of them. She just wants the CS."</blockquote>




Pretty sure its based on his income. He definitely needs to do something but he's too nice. When they split he gave her the house they built together, he left with nothing. She lets her oldest stay home because she gets lonely   I think he needs custody too

Sadly there is no much you can control over what the custodial parent does w/ the child support money!

Quoting Mrs Somerhalder:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Jas ♥:</b>" He should take her to court and have the ... [snip!] ... built together, he left with nothing. She lets her oldest stay home because she gets lonely   I think he needs custody too"

That's ridiculous. He needs to be an advocate for not only himself but their children. Missing speech therapy and letting one of the children stay home from school is unacceptable. In the states, too many absences will warrant a visit from the truancy officers and could possibly get the parent in legal trouble.

I would be upset if the circumstances are correct and something actually important didn't come up. Wow at 1200 a month! I used to get CS for my son and every single penny went to him. I only got 348 when he made over 70k a yr. If it wasn't for clothes or things he needed we gave him the money to get what he wanted (within reason). There of course was a few times we used it on bills, but mostly it all went to him. At christmas time since his dad has NEVER sent a gift we offered to fly him out a few times over the years and we will buy gifts and say they are from his dad. ~ If everything is legit he definately needs to take her back to court! Shoes before boobs!!!

Quoting Jas ♥:" That's ridiculous. He needs to be an advocate for not only himself but their children. Missing speech ... [snip!] ... states, too many absences will warrant a visit from the truancy officers and could possibly get the parent in legal trouble."

This is true. It really can get her in trouble. My mother is a foster parent and several of the children she has taken care of for a while have been put in foster care because one or both of the parents (depending on whether the parents were together or not) weren't making the child go to school like they were supposed to. The parent would have to attend parenting classes and go to counseling along with the child. Most of these kids were in foster care for almost a year before the court allowed them to go back to their parents. So I definitely think he should take her to court and at least have the child support assessed so that the court can see what she is spending the money on.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jas ♥:</b>" He should take her to court and have the child support assessed. Why is he paying so much anyway? Is ... [snip!] ... I'd be filing for physical custody of the children since she clearly doesn't want to take care of them. She just wants the CS."</blockquote>

SHOES BEFORE BOOBS!!


something defiantly needs to be done. All you can do is just suggest it & support you family no matter what!