Quoting Curlyheadedfck:" So do I go to a dhs kinda office? or ?? he' sin a different state as well... and refuses to cooperate with anything."
Yup, call them.
I'm not sure what difference it makes if he's in a different state, or how that works, but they would have answers for you.
With my first, i never went for c/s, so had no clue what to do with my second (though we're together now) but even when he wanted to make an alteration to it, it still took just short of like 7-8 weeks to all be in order. and i didn't have it til around 1 yr-ish either.
Sometimes when it goes through court, it can just be drawn out for months.