another money vent....

God smurfing DH does not know how to manage money, he says hes keeping up with it then he overdraws, im like if u know there is only 2 dollars do not go get smurfing dunkin donuts, all i smurfing buy is diapers for our son! and hes like oh i got hungry on my way to work so i stopped at mcdonalds and its like well why dont you eat at home and hes just like we dont have any food, do you see me bitching? i live off of toast because every peice of real food we have i make for SO and pack in his lunch so he will have something good to eat and then he goes and spends smurfing 7 dollars at mcdonalds then 5 more later then 12 dollars at taco bell and 3 dollars at duncan donuts and smurfing 15 dollars at a vending machine ever week, like are you smurfing kidding me, then my dad sends me 25 dollars every week which we are suppose to be saving and he takes it and says its for gas then only puts some of it in gas and uses the rest for BS while we are struggeling hoping he makes it home from work because he wants to go blow our money on bull smurf stuff and then when i saw DS needs diapers hes like we just bought a while big box (76) last week and its like yeah LAST WEEK, he goes through a box in a week, and he wants to trade in my car (which is payed off) to get a bigger car (which we need) and make payments but WTF? if he cant put aside enough money for gas every week how can i trust him to put aside enough money for a car payment every month?



Okay end rant/vent

sorry i know i have horrible grammer in this i am very irritated and kinda pissed at the moment.

..... Geez. Are you guys both working and bringing in some sort of income?

Im sorry to hear that..but atleast I know Im not the only one putting up with this smurf lol. DH cant handle money either and is doing the same exact things yours is. Its really frustrating!

If your dad gives you money every week to save go open an account that your DH cannot touch so that you can save the money!!!!! My DH is bad money wise too and when we first got together he would overdraft all the time. Now he just lets me handle the money and he asks when he can buy something. Though it took 3 years to get to that point.

thats exactly why I took over my family finances! My SO never touches his money cuz of all the money he wasted on video games/computer parts/ and junk!!! If I buy anything its what we need only and every once and awhile a gift for SO or kids

Quoting Baby Love.:" ..... Geez. Are you guys both working and bringing in some sort of income?"

no i stay home with DS, we dont have anyone to watch him if i was to get a job.

<blockquote><b>Quoting *Mrs. Mallard*:</b>" no i stay home with DS, we dont have anyone to watch him if i was to get a job."</blockquote>

Work from home or put him in daycare. I really don't think anyone staying home has as much say in the money as the person working and I've been a stay at home mom for five years.

Talk to your Dad and see if you and him can open up just a saving account together and have your Dad put the money in there and don't tell your DH. That's just crazy. I'm going to say something and please know I'm not trying to be a bitch one bit what so ever, but you guys are talking about TTC in what 6 months? You really need to rethink that if you're living off toast. Do you qualify for food stamps or WIC? Sounds like you could use the help right now.

<blockquote><b>Quoting *Mrs. Mallard*:</b>" no i stay home with DS, we dont have anyone to watch him if i was to get a job."</blockquote>




Find something you can do with him.   Just find a second income. Sounds like you guys could use it. And stop letting him have access to money. Make a separate bank account! I can't imagine not being able to trust my man with money.  

<blockquote><b>Quoting khigh:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting *Mrs. Mallard*:</b>" no i stay home with DS, we dont have ... [snip!] ... think anyone staying home has as much say in the money as the person working and I've been a stay at home mom for five years."</blockquote>




That's really dumb!! I stay at home, and I have just as much say as my husband does! He works away from home, and I WORK at home. It is our account, our money, and we decide together what happens with it. Marriage is a partnership.. 50/50.

<blockquote><b>Quoting wilde_mommy:</b>" Talk to your Dad and see if you and him can open up just a saving account together and have your Dad ... [snip!] ... rethink that if you're living off toast. Do you qualify for food stamps or WIC? Sounds like you could use the help right now."</blockquote>


Woah wait... TTC? And you can barely make it as it is? -__-

<blockquote><b>Quoting ✿LilyBear09✿:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting khigh:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting *Mrs. Mallard*:</b>" ... [snip!] ... I WORK at home. It is our account, our money, and we decide together what happens with it. Marriage is a partnership.. 50/50."</blockquote>

Marriage is a partnership... He just makes the money that he's spending.

Quoting khigh:" <blockquote><b>Quoting *Mrs. Mallard*:</b>" no i stay home with DS, we dont have ... [snip!] ... think anyone staying home has as much say in the money as the person working and I've been a stay at home mom for five years."

I do not agree with that at all. I stay home with kids and our money is our money. We are married. And for a lot of ppl daycare is more then they would make or just as much as they would make.

I just don't think you should be complaining about not having money if you are doing nothing to contribute to the income.

And, 19, broke, and TTC? Not smart.

Quoting khigh:" <blockquote><b>Quoting *Mrs. Mallard*:</b>" no i stay home with DS, we dont have ... [snip!] ... think anyone staying home has as much say in the money as the person working and I've been a stay at home mom for five years."

If someone is married they have just as much say over where the money goes, doesn't matter if they're working or not. JMO