Now he wants to get his smurf together

After some serious, I’m going to leave talk yesterday. He suddenly wants to get his smurf together and make a better effort. I don’t know if this is way of him trying to get me to stay like the million other times I have but I’m really lost at what to do. I’m scared that if I stay things will go back to the way they were and he won’t hold up to what he is saying (he never did before). Then I’ll regret not leaving like many times before. I know I’m just done and tired. I’ve been running on steam for a long time, too many disappointments from him and empty promises. It doesn’t help that his mother put a huge guilt trip on me because she said I was going to screw up my son’s life. I really starting to smurfing hate his family with a passion right now. He also made me feel bad saying that if I left he would be homeless because he uses our child’s SSI money to pay the rent. Of course our son isn’t staying with him he’s coming with me. I’m just at a point where I don’t know what to do. I don’t think I will be happy staying with him but then I wonder if I will regret it later. Ugh, seriously I’m going nuts over here.

Well, I'd say hes out of strikes. He probably is just trying to get you to stay and will fall back into his old habits again. Maybe leaving will finally make him see that you are serious and he needs to step up to his responsibilities. Sometimes a good swift kick in the ass makes people change, and sometimes it doesn't  

Quoting rpgmomma8404:" After some serious, I’m going to leave talk yesterday. He suddenly wants to get his smurf together and ... [snip!] ... think I will be happy staying with him but then I wonder if I will regret it later. Ugh, seriously I’m going nuts over here. "

I'd leave, honestly. Even if it's just staying at a parent's house or even a friend's for a while until you REALLY think he's changed, without a doubt. I wouldn't be going back all the time. SO has already messed up, twice. He gets another chance and if he smurfs up again, we're through. He knows this and I think I've got him straightened out now.

Yeah I really think it is probably the best option. At least he could fix himself for someone else. Whatever love I had was gone for him. I still care about him, I always will but as for loving him. No, I don't think so. I haven't been in love with him for a long time. I just hung on to the hope that things would get better and now it's almost a little too late.