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o me and my babies father are not together and I'm about 28 weeks pregnant.. I haven't even seen him since he left (around 8 wks).. he also lives in another state. We had a fight when he left and didn't talk for 2+ months then he got a hold of me and practically begged for a second chance..... Well I gave him the benefit of the doubt and gave him my number and he would text every once in awhile... I inviteed him to the gender ultrasound, he didn't go. Well I still haven't seen him still he lives about 6 hrs away. I asked him last night if I was going to see him before the baby is born and he said 'only if he does t come early' .. 'I mean 12 hours is a long way to drive just to see how your doing' Is that really acceptable? To not be around the WHOLE pregnancy but expect to be there for thr birth ? I'm trying not to be upset. I'm not sure what I should do? Just let him? And be glad he cares that much?

<blockquote><b>Quoting k❤:</b>" o me and my babies father are not together and I'm about 28 weeks pregnant.. I haven't even seen him ... [snip!] ... there for thr birth ? I'm trying not to be upset. I'm not sure what I should do? Just let him? And be glad he cares that much?"</blockquote>




Yes that's acceptable.



He wants to be in his child's life doesn't necessarily mean he wants to be in your life too.

Harsh I know, but if he is 12hrs away working, or in a different state for school or some other opportunity it's difficult to say he should be with you BC your pregnant with his baby.

What do you want him to do? Drive 12 hours to stare at your belly?

Smurf him. My BD knew I was prego, we worked at the same place. But he was on drugs and sleeping with whatever girl he could. He didn't give a smurf about our baby. Don't waste your time....everyone told me things would change once DD was here. And they did, he went to rehab and tried to be a "family" for a couple months before he kicked us out of his lives. He barely sees her, barely helps me....would be so much easier if he wasn't around at all to be honest. Less stress. If I could go back to when I was pregnant, I would not worry about him. I was so depressed and had such bad anxiety from how he treated me while I was pregnant.....don't worry about him! Worry about yourself, your future, your baby. If he wanted to be there, he could be and would be. Worst thing you can do is stress about him and what he does and why he's not there. It's hard as smurf to just forget your baby's father, I know but if you can focus on yourself and your baby and not on him one bit you will feel so much better!

ya it definitely sucks.. but chances are.. he probably won't even make it to the birth if he is that far away... It's not like you can exactly know when u will go into labor unless you are scheduling a csection or induction... You never know how things will turn out but you don't want your child to resent you for keeping the daddy out of his life..especially if daddy is gonna make some effort.

Quoting Bobo's mum:" <blockquote><b>Quoting k❤:</b>" o me and my babies father are not together and ... [snip!] ... state for school or some other opportunity it's difficult to say he should be with you BC your pregnant with his baby."

This.  

Yes it is my baby daddy and me live in the same town, and the only time we see each other is if we are at the same store or something. Then we will chat and he'll rub my belly. Other than that, I know I'll see him for a couple of hours when our daughter is born. It sucks not having them everyday but it's not like they can do much for our pregnancy any way!!! Just let him be there when the baby is born, its his child just as much as yours. Give him a chance to be a father!

A father doesn't have to be with the mother to be allowed to participate in his kids life. You should be happy he wants to be there for the birth

Count your blessings that he even wants to be there when the baby is born. A lot of single mothers would kill just to have that much for their child. And in all honesty, he has no obligation to you, just the baby.

well i mean it sucks but if yall aren't together then he probably doesn't want to see you...im sorry

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rabbit™ {25wks}:</b>" Count your blessings that he even wants to be there when the baby is born. A lot of single mothers would ... [snip!] ... mothers would kill just to have that much for their child. And in all honesty, he has no obligation to you, just the baby."</blockquote>

Disagree. My ex wasn't around for any of my pregnancy and I was glad he didn't want to be there for the birth. I wouldn't have let him be there anyways.

My mom was by my side, the person who supported me throughout my entire pregnancy. And I wouldn't have had it any other way.

<blockquote><b>Quoting sooletsunwind:</b>" Smurf him. My BD knew I was prego, we worked at the same place. But he was on drugs and sleeping with ... [snip!] ... your baby's father, I know but if you can focus on yourself and your baby and not on him one bit you will feel so much better!"</blockquote>



Wow you're a smurf.

I know it's hurtful that he doesn't want to be around for DR appointments, or the sonogram to find out the gender. I really don't blame you for being upset, I think it's smurffy he left you when you were 8 weeks pregnant and couldn't be bothered to check up on you till you were 28+ weeks.
I'd make him sit in the waiting room while you're giving birth, you don't have to let him be super involved in the birth by letting him in the room and stuff.

<blockquote><b>Quoting *~Stella's Momma~*:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Rabbit™ {25wks}:</b>" Count your blessings that he even ... [snip!] ... My mom was by my side, the person who supported me throughout my entire pregnancy. And I wouldn't have had it any other way."</blockquote>



She didn't say every single mother. She said a lot of them. Which is perfectly true.

Ya know.. i sit here and i read these posts and know of all the drama i had with my BD of my first 3 and all the drama with BD of this one... and this is just one of the many reasons why premarital sex isnt good.. I'm guilty too so I'm not pointing fingers.. but think about all the drama and how it really stems from that. btw, i dont know all the abbreviations but assume BD is Baby Daddy  

I PROMISE.. if me and my husband do not stay married... I will NOT have sex again before I am married.. That's no guarantee i know.. but it messes w/ your emotions.. and then you "fall in love" when it was really "just sex" to them or something.. Just think about how attached you become to a person more quickly once you actually have sex. nothing you can do about it now.. but only change next time around when you are able to start dating again..