Am I being stupid?

So me and dh haven't had sex in two weeks which is long for us. The reason is because I stopped being the one to initiate it. So now it's just not happening. It's beginning to freaking hurt my feelings because I feel he's not into me anymore.
He doesn't even sleep in the same room anymore. Which most of the time is because ds crawls into bed and there's not enough room for all 3 of us.
There's just no physical activitiy between us. We kiss sometimes but that's it. There's no emotinonal feelings either. I feel like he's becoming sooo distant though he's saying he's not.

What would you do?

Quoting That Girl.:" So me and dh haven't had sex in two weeks which is long for us. The reason is because I stopped being ... [snip!] ... no emotinonal feelings either. I feel like he's becoming sooo distant though he's saying he's not. What would you do?"

I would stop playing games and sit down and have a talk with him about your concerns.

I'd start by kicking the kid out of the bed.

Is there anyone who could take your son for a night so you and DH can have some alone time together? Because that's what I would do.

Quoting .Colleen.:" I would stop playing games and sit down and have a talk with him about your concerns."

I have talked to him. He says he's not being distant, and usually responds that he's not going to be stuck up my ass?

I kinda am thinking that he's really freaking out about having a new baby.

Quoting That Girl.:" I have talked to him. He says he's not being distant, and usually responds that he's not going to be stuck up my ass? I kinda am thinking that he's really freaking out about having a new baby."

So why the witholding sex?
Thats the game playing I am talking about.

If him not initiating sex is a problem you need to talk about it rather than playing games.

Quoting SpaceCowgirl:" I'd start by kicking the kid out of the bed."

I know I'm working on it.

Quoting .Colleen.:" I would stop playing games and sit down and have a talk with him about your concerns."

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you need to tell him how you feel! Men are not always the masters of the obvious, sometimes you need to spell it out for them. Maybe he's also feeling like his needs aren't met in some way, which could be a reason for the distance? I don't mean that in an accusatory way, just looking for reasons for his action...or inaction.

Quoting .Colleen.:" So why the witholding sex? Thats the game playing I am talking about. If him not initiating sex is a problem you need to talk about it rather than playing games."

Your right. But I got tired of having to basically having to talk him into sex.
He's also back to watching porn all the time and pleasuring himself. So that's most likely why he isn't even trying to have sex with me.

Quoting That Girl.:" Your right. But I got tired of having to basically having to talk him into sex. He's also back to ... [snip!] ... back to watching porn all the time and pleasuring himself. So that's most likely why he isn't even trying to have sex with me."

I get that, I really do
Unfortunatly, it causes nothing but more resentment.

Now that you mention the porn, that shows it's not a lack of sex drive.

I think you need to be as blunt about your concerns when you speak to him, just like you are now.

believe me, avoiding the issue will only make it worse.
I strongly urge you to face it head on as soon as you can since you do have a baby on the way and that will add alot of other pressures as well

Im wondering the same thing that was me and my SO about 2 months ago and now were splitting up you guys need that bonding time dont let those bonds fade because i did and now Im moving out  

Quoting wombie:" this you need to tell him how you feel! Men are not always the masters of the obvious, sometimes you ... [snip!] ... reason for the distance? I don't mean that in an accusatory way, just looking for reasons for his action...or inaction. "

Yeah I wish he would tell me If I were doing wrong? Or if things were getting boring? I am outspoken and he is one of those people that you have to beat smurf out of.

Quoting That Girl.:" Yeah I wish he would tell me If I were doing wrong? Or if things were getting boring? I am outspoken and he is one of those people that you have to beat smurf out of."

that's so frustrating! My husband is the same way. If something is bothering him, he will hold it in until he is raging mad about it and then he'll freak out on me. He's working on it but damn that's irritating.

I hope you guys are able to talk about it openly. Good luck to you.

Quoting paula h:" Im wondering the same thing that was me and my SO about 2 months ago and now were splitting up you guys need that bonding time dont let those bonds fade because i did and now Im moving out  "

I'm so sorry  

Quoting .Colleen.:" I get that, I really do Unfortunatly, it causes nothing but more resentment. Now that you mention ... [snip!] ... face it head on as soon as you can since you do have a baby on the way and that will add alot of other pressures as well "

Yes you are very right. I do need to address it head on. Maybe Ill cook a nice dinner and try to nicely address it. Porn has been an issue in our marriage because he can't seem to control the amount he watches. Once he gets into porn sex become less and less of an existence with us. But I wonder if theres a reason he watches porn and pleasures himself when Im down for sex whenever and he knows it. We've argued about it before, and he says it has nothing to do with me he just likes porn. But then why does he replace our intimacy with porn and his smurfing hand.