Quoting MysticWitchKat:" I fail to see why she needs to make all the effort when he isn't making it himself. And so what if it causes a smurfing fight. He needs to grow the hell up."

Don't waste your breath ....

Quoting Chelsea Dawns Mama:" If he is spending all his time working on his car instead of spending time with his daughter, how is that good parenting? I don't care the reason, you don't ignore your family for a hobby."

She said he comes home talks to baby, kisses baby, plays with baby, then goes and spends hours on the car, Hardly completely ignoring her, And it sounds as if he loves her, So i personally don't think it sounds like that big a deal, At least he is at home, She know's where he is, Not some bar bum who truly neglects them.

Quoting Jynxd Blyss:" I guess i'd get annoyed if my SO was always wanting to do something else which had him avoid me, But ... [snip!] ... at least at home, Or close by working on it, And not spending all this time and pubs and clubs drinking with men and women ..."

I don't know if you were trying to be a bitch, or what.
BUT,
It's not that I don't want to have sex with him, it physically HURTS me. I can still be intimate with him, without having sex 24/7. But, maybe you're right, maybe he is shunning me because I'm not having sex with him as often as he wants. Maybe, I'm pushing him away. Maybe, he does it to get away from me.  
It IS a healthy hobby, YES. It's way better than him going out getting drunk, YES. But not all day long, not every single day. He can't even watch a movie with me, without getting on Ebay looking at car parts.
He is an awesome father. But, when you buy a million different car parts and tools over getting your daughter clothes, toys, and diapers, I think there's a problem.
He will say "oh she doesn't need that" ALL THE TIME. When, she ALWAYS needs diapers. He doesn't need half the smurf he buys.

Quoting Evelynns Mama!:" I don't know if you were trying to be a bitch, or what. BUT, It's not that I don't want to have sex ... [snip!] ... He will say "oh she doesn't need that" ALL THE TIME. When, she ALWAYS needs diapers. He doesn't need half the smurf he buys."

Have you talked to the doctor about the pain?

Quoting Evelynns Mama!:" I don't know if you were trying to be a bitch, or what. BUT, It's not that I don't want to have sex ... [snip!] ... He will say "oh she doesn't need that" ALL THE TIME. When, she ALWAYS needs diapers. He doesn't need half the smurf he buys."

If the car is running and not falling apart, he doesn't need any of it.

Um, you know what would make you feel better. Some COD. Like, NOW.

He's not ignoring her. If I ask him to come look at something she did, or whatever, he will come in and see, or if like, I want to take a shower.
He won't stop to spend time with me though, like quality time.  

That is a ugly car :/
Have you told him how much it bothers you?

Quoting Jynxd Blyss:" She said he comes home talks to baby, kisses baby, plays with baby, then goes and spends hours on the ... [snip!] ... think it sounds like that big a deal, At least he is at home, She know's where he is, Not some bar bum who truly neglects them."

If she is complaining then chances are she knows more about how long he spends with his family then you do, k thx bai.

Quoting ♥ PUFFIN ♥:" That is a ugly car :/ Have you told him how much it bothers you?"

YES I have  

<blockquote><b>Quoting MysticWitchKat:</b>" I fail to see why she needs to make all the effort when he isn't making it himself. And so what if it causes a smurfing fight. He needs to grow the hell up."</blockquote>




I just thought it would be a hilarious point to make.

But really, once you start the fight by acting like their mother and taking away their toys, there is no rational discussion afterwards.

Quoting Twin's Mommy:" Um, you know what would make you feel better. Some COD. Like, NOW. "

AWESOME idea! ;)
Logging on..........NOW!