Would you be mad? Thanksgiving.

Soo.. I'm always really good about making plans for holidays to suit both my ex and I.. In our mediation agreement, he said he'd leave holidays up to me, because he knows I really love the holidays and I think its important she be with both of us.
Anyway, I asked him about thanksgiving last week.. his typical response was "i have to check with my girlfriend because shes working, I'll let you know by Saturday" Well obviously I never heard back. I told him ideally, he could have her 1 to 4 because I have family things at 4.. Still nothing..
Well I asked his mom, we went to lunch and Ice cream with the LO yesterday if she knew what his plans were (they dont talk but she was in the ER on friday and he was the only one she could get a hold of and so i figured they talked about it then)
She said, well he said something about going to his girlfriends parents house early because his girlfriend works the evening..
Now, I love that he has a girlfriend and my daughter seems to really like her.. so i knew she would be included.. But i know for a fact, that my daughters never met her family before... and i assumed she'd be going to my ex's dads house because every time he has visitation he ALWAYS brings her there, so his dad and step mom can take care of her.. (a different issue i have).
Would you care if your child was going to some strangers house to thanksgiving?
I'm not too upset, but I was curious. should i be?
i get a little angry because I FEEL as though he uses her as a 'show off'.. hes a very minimal dad, barely does visitation and always relies on someone to help with her when he has her.. But everyone knows he has a kid, so he has to 'show' he has her sometimes.
hmm.. I just dont know any more.

If it was me, I wouldn't make the effort if he didn't.

I wouldn't be mad if she when to bds gfs familys house for holidays.

Quoting kate♥[j&a]:" If it was me, I wouldn't make the effort if he didn't."

well in the agreement I said I would included him.
So i have to ask. I haven't nor will bring it back up, unless he says something.
He knows when I have plans and i told him to make it before that.

Maybe he's not even taking her there?

Quoting lolajessup:" Maybe he's not even taking her there?"

no. he sorta hinted at it.
but maybe not.. I was just askin other peoples opinion, if he is or not, i dont know.

I don't think I would to upset as long as he wasn't leaving lo there alone with her family

I don't think I would to upset as long as he wasn't leaving lo there alone with her family

<blockquote><b>Quoting Misty Walls:</b>" I don't think I would to upset as long as he wasn't leaving lo there alone with her family"</blockquote>

  if it's a serious gf she's gonna go there eventually.

I wouldn't be mad. He is going with her a d if that's where he wants to spend thanksgiving than he should be able to do so.

Quoting Misty Walls:" I don't think I would to upset as long as he wasn't leaving lo there alone with her family"

yeah.. I guess it just bothers me she wont be with people she knows, except BD and his girlfriend. and even then, he hasnt actively been in her life until we went to court and the judge made it known if he didnt start making effort he wouldnt get visitation .
I just feel like, she should be with people she knows and loves.. it is thanksgiving..
At least she knows BD dad and step mom well.

Quoting lolajessup:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Misty Walls:</b>" I don't think I would to upset as long as ... [snip!] ... he wasn't leaving lo there alone with her family"</blockquote>   if it's a serious gf she's gonna go there eventually."

for what I know and heard, they aren't that 'serious'.

I would be upset unless the girlfriend was serious.

butt its not about how serious they are or that hes allowed to take her where ever he wants.. I wasnt disputing that..
I was more so seeing if anyone else would feel weird/bad/mad/sad that there child was going with there dad on a holiday to random peoples house.. I guess i just feel like she should be with 'family'.. he does have family who sees and loves her.. thats all

Quoting Lorelei's Mommy ♥:" butt its not about how serious they are or that hes allowed to take her where ever he wants.. I wasnt ... [snip!] ... peoples house.. I guess i just feel like she should be with 'family'.. he does have family who sees and loves her.. thats all"

Well it does depend on how serious they are. If they like, just started dating, then it very well could be some random's house. if they're more serious though, it isn't random...