re: help me! Vulnerable post. *weight*

Quoting [JadeLee]:" I guess it doesn't look all that different to me. Sorry."

14lbs

Quoting [JadeLee]:" I was beautiful and never skinny in High School, then I had a kid, and a fiance and gained 60 pounds. I am sure you just made NO ONE feel better about their weight."

No, she's perfectlty fine in her response. It's not only overweight people who fret about their bodies. 10 lbs could make her body completely different. Even more so if there wasn't much of her to begin with. Me losing 10lbs? Psh...not even the scale would notice.

Quoting Spoonful of Jayson:" Yeah, I get it. I had to stop getting fast food. Now I only get it on the way home frm the bar. lol"

That is another hard thing, alcohol. I quit having a drink a night or two every couple when I started my diet. Unless you are drinking whiskey water (Yuck.) it is a lot of calories.

Quoting Spoonful of Jayson:" No, she's perfectlty fine in her response. It's not only overweight people who fret about their bodies. ... [snip!] ... different. Even more so if there wasn't much of her to begin with. Me losing 10lbs? Psh...not even the scale would notice."

Exactly. 10lbs may not seem like a lot but to gain it? It can make a lot of difference.

Quoting [JadeLee]:" That is another hard thing, alcohol. I quit having a drink a night or two every couple when I started my diet. Unless you are drinking whiskey water (Yuck.) it is a lot of calories."

Yeah. I don't go out that often so when I do, I tend to drink alot. I'd never stick to a diet or lifestyle if I felt completely deprived!

it would probabley be agood idea to talk to a dr. coucilor or even a good friend about depression. its a hard thing to deal with and until you do you probabley wont find the motivation you need to succeed. fill your house with healthy food so when you do cave atleast its on something good for you. also place mirrors in places where you keep food, seeing yourself right before you eat is a good reminder that you dont want to look and feel the way you do. i hope you fond motivation and are able to stay on track, but dont beat yourself up over it, the most important thing is staying healthy! good luck

Quoting nita84:" it would probabley be agood idea to talk to a dr. coucilor or even a good friend about depression. its ... [snip!] ... and are able to stay on track, but dont beat yourself up over it, the most important thing is staying healthy! good luck"

Thank you! That helps!

I did see a therapist for a few sessions just recently. I had to stop though. He didn't have a filter and would act like literally shocked at the things I told him. He also had his wife and other clients constantly knocking on the door and a dock going in and out of the office where we were. It was awful. I'm looking for a new one.

I'm only 4"11 and went from weighing 108 pounds to weighing 168 pounds when I had my daughter (who was also 6 weeks early). I'm now back down to 130 and my daughter is 10 months old. I graduated with a degree in social work with a minor in exercise sports science. I hate to work out now and I love the fried things still from when I was pregnant. Let me tell you that most trainers who are highly paid will snub their nose at.
Eat what you love!! But do it in portions. I love an Italian restaurant in my home town that's just pure Italian food. I started ordering the child's plate. I began to do that everywhere I went and I also threw in good salads here and there. I'm a stay at home mom so who has time for exercise when fighting teething, growing, crawling and nap fighting? During naps or after bedtime. Pick a 20-30 minute show you are not that all interested in and stand and move around. Do a few side steps raising your arms, heck you can use vegetable cans as weights, do some marching while singing to yourself or lightly snapping your fingers, hold onto the couch and do leg lifts and do the girl jumping jacks then a light stretch.

It might sounds weird but I will tell you that has been my workout routine and it has worked. I do it maybe 2-3 times a week. You can eat what you love but eat a smaller portion and still feel satisfied. I promise that after a week if this you will notice your hunger lessening. Also one more tip. I know the thought of "Gluten Free" makes you want to order a pizza but, go to wal mart down the baking items isle and buy 1 box of Gluten Free Gluteno Parmesan and cheese bagel chips. I'm going to hold a promise to how amazing these are along with everything else. It's like your not eating healthy. I have made a broccoli cheese and rice casserole with skim milk shredded cheese. Boiled chicken. Can of reduced sodium cream of chicken or cream of mushroom soup and brown rice with these crumbled on top. My husband who is as fit as they come now wants this all the time

Sorry to ramble to everyone I just wanted to help and know it will all be okay.

Question ever thought of going to a food specialist and having them help u understand why u want the food and help u understand what to eat and what not to eat. I believe that would change ur thinking, someone can help u not make food a cruch. Just an idea

Start small. I changed what i ate for breakfast first. I added a fruit and eggs for protein and toast for a carb. Basically slowly i wean off the junk and kept adding more and more healthy and i use one packet of raw sugar in my coffee. It does get easier. I realized its like quitting smoking. Food is an addiction. It does get easier
Just gotta push thru the cravings. Drink water or grab a fruit instead.

For one, if possible, don't bring it into the house. If it's not there, you CAN'T eat it, you know? Also, to start with, MAKE yourself write down every single thing you eat. If you do that, you really start to think about it before you eat it.

I don't know if this helps, but I was totally an emotional eater and I didn't even realize it. I'd just go to the kitchen to graze for food even when I wasn't at all hungry. I'd just open the fridge to LOOK for something I could eat. I was started on Prozac for both depression and fibromyalgia and I can't believe the huge difference it's made it curbing that desire. I still have to work on eating good foods. It isn't a diet pill that takes away my hunger, but it HAS helped me by treating some of the emotions that were causing me to eat, which then has helped me tackle the problem/.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Stl mama:</b>" After you get off your addiction to carbs (takes week or two) you can do it! I'm in the same place. I was beautiful skinny over the summer then I gained 10lbs."</blockquote>



If I gain 10 pounds it is a huge difference! I'm really short

<blockquote><b>Quoting HopingforaMiracle:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Stl mama:</b>" After you get off your addiction to carbs (takes ... [snip!] ... over the summer then I gained 10lbs."</blockquote> If I gain 10 pounds it is a huge difference! I'm really short"</blockquote>



I'm looking at pictures from this summer and cant believe I got to this point. I'm motivated to lose weight. I can't live like this.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Stl mama:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting HopingforaMiracle:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Stl ... [snip!] ... at pictures from this summer and cant believe I got to this point. I'm motivated to lose weight. I can't live like this."</blockquote>



I'm sorry  

Quoting Spoonful of Jayson:" Thanks! I'm just at a point in my life where I hate myself, but I don't care enough to change it or ... [snip!] ... enough to change it or do the work. All of my energy is going elsewhere and I need to focus on myself. Hopefully I succeed!"

I've been going through the same thing. Can't look at myself in the mirror without crying. I hate myself. Depressed as smurf. I'm the biggest I've ever been in my entire life (even weigh what I weighed at the end of my last pregnancy). You HAVE to have the motivation or someone who will cheer you on and help motivate you. For me it's my husband. We started doing Insanity and eating right a week ago. Today is day 8 of the program. Buy a lot of fresh fruits and veggies to snack on throughout the day. Drink a LOT of water, because a lot of the time your hunger pains are from dehydration. You CAN do it, but you have to want to.

These are the things I have printed and taped to my mirror so I see them every single morning when I wake up:




Good luck mama.