He's had his chance, know don't lose your chance to be happy. If he was going to change he would have shaped up after the first incident.

Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, expecting different results. - Albert Enstien.

<blockquote><b>Quoting waitingimpatiently.:</b>" He's had his chance, know don't lose your chance to be happy. If he was going to change he would have ... [snip!] ... the first incident. Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, expecting different results. - Albert Enstien."</blockquote>




Great quote.

Quoting waitingimpatiently.:" He's had his chance, know don't lose your chance to be happy. If he was going to change he would have ... [snip!] ... the first incident. Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, expecting different results. - Albert Enstien."

So very true!! Im to that point of feeling overly insane! To love someone so much your willing to forgive them for everything yet to them they dont even realize what pain and hurt they caused to begin with ... Its sad , a horrible feeling! An the worst part is to have my children in the middle of it! My 3yr old this past week while there father visited had a hyper ventilating attack one evening in mid sleep that mommy and daddy didnt love eachother anymore so we didnt love her and it was all her fault ... Thats the worst part to me! I hate to admit to I have put her in therapy to help cope with the emotions she is going through with all the seperation, physical and verbal abuse she has witnessed etc ... my son doesnt really ever remember a mommy and daddy together since he was only 4 months old the first time we split ... and with my new son on the way I dont want him to know the on again off again at all ... So THANK YOU ladies for some RATIONAL non pregnant hormonal advice!! An to remind me to just keep going as I am raising my babies the best on my own ... and praying he realizes all he is missing as a here n there father!

If he honestly wanted to make it work with just you and only you, he wouldn't be making excuses for why he can't do what you're asking of him. I think it's fine to let your kids see him, but if he wants any shot at fixing your marriage (Which I don't think he deserves), he needs to be the one coming to meet you 90% of the way. He needs to be the one making all the effort and changing his ways and doing things to fix what he's done. HE needs to get rid of the phone and off the internet and be spending all of his time outside of work working on fixing his relationship with you and his kids. If he doesn't feel it's worth doing all of that, then he's not really trying to change for you.

Brit you know I love ya and don't want to see you hurting but I honestly don't think he will change. Phone or not he will find a way to talk or see other girls. I know you love him and want it to work but if he loved you like he says he does he wouldn't keep doing it. He hasnt learned from it and I honestly don't think he will. If you don't want to give up then I think you should give him the ultimatum of either the phone or you? and moving back home with you and the kids. Text me whenever you need to talk hun, you know I'm here for you always.

Quoting Mommy to 3 boys & 1 girl:" Brit you know I love ya and don't want to see you hurting but I honestly don't think he will change. ... [snip!] ... or you? and moving back home with you and the kids. Text me whenever you need to talk hun, you know I'm here for you always."

I know your right to is the smurffy part .. he is NEVER gonna change ... and trust me I gave him the ultimatium ... already told him lose the phone or in March when Cullen is born he will get a court date for paternity and Divorce! That I wont put another child through this and I wont deal with any more heart ache! I just needed to know it wasnt a stupid request like I was wrong for telling him that he needed the phone gone .. He of course said it was fair .. that he needed it for like I said above calculator , online banking etc ... All of us ladies who have babies with the one we love dont picture ourselves as single moms raising the family we built together alone ... I know you know all to well how this feels ... how it sucks and the heartache it has for your children. Im glad youve been strong girly moved on from Zach to an amazing man Eric and now get the best gift ever Alexandria (is that sticking lol) ... I love ya girly and Thanks for being there and reminding me that Im doing the right thing ... moving on making a better life for my kids and leaving all the hurt behind!

Quoting MommyJustice!:" I know your right to is the smurffy part .. he is NEVER gonna change ... and trust me I gave him the ... [snip!] ... and reminding me that Im doing the right thing ... moving on making a better life for my kids and leaving all the hurt behind! "

It still hurts when I think about not spending my life with Zach. It hurts sending the boys to him and seeing his girlfriend with them. I know us being apart is the right thing but at the same time I still miss him, the old him. I got really lucky reconnecting with Eric and I know that you will be just as lucky and find a guy that will make you happy. Yes, Alexandria is sticking lol Being a single mom isnt easy but nothing in life is easy. I know you'll do just fine and the kids will know that you tried for them and it just didnt work.

Posts like these piss me off. He will NEVER be faithful to you, so move on. The phone isn't the problem in the marriage, it's him. If he was serious about making it work he would give up his phone with no problem, and if you were smart you would never give him another chance. I mean, why would he stop cheating on you, if you're just going to keep taking him back? Looks like he's sitting pretty right about now, while you go through all the heartbreak...

Your not wrong at what you want my ex did it to me. But, lately I have learned and going though my phone you can put blocks on the phone to where you can see everything, sprint also has a locator and you can block out who texts or calls the phone as well as blocking off internet useages.

Its time to walk away, no one deserve to go through what your going through ! you deserve someone that's going to love you and want to be with you and only you. Obviously your not enough for him so find you someone who think your more then enough ! this relationship is not worth keeping because he's not going to change especially if this has been going your whole relationship! There's better out here and you shouldn't subject yourself to this !

Hope everything works out for you!