So my DH's cousin came over on Saturday trying to sell us a car (which we need and he knows we've needed a car). It was a good price and my parents agreed to pay for the car and allow us to pay them back. I asked him if he had the title and he said he did, so we agreed my mom would get the money today and we'd buy the car tonight. He's been pushy all day about DH coming to get the car, so my DH went and got the car from him and I was supposed to bring the check to him tonight, BUT apparently since he just bought the car last month he hasn't got the title in his name yet, so he still needs to put the title in his name before he can sign it over to us. I told my DH I don't feel comfortable asking my parents to pay for a car that they're not going to get the title for yet and my DH told his cousin that, then his cousin told us they need the money tonight because if they don't pay their electric bill their power is getting shut off tomorrow...  

His cousin says we have the car and they need the money, but us physically having the car in our driveway doesn't mean smurf. We can't get plates or insurance without the title, so it doesn't mean crap, and I feel like he played us trying to get us to "take" the car today.

I'm irritated and I don't feel right asking my parents to pay for a car they're not getting a title for, so what do I do? My DH says he feels badly, but honestly, their bills are not my problem and I wouldn't be so pissed if he hadn't have "tricked" us. If he would've just said from the beginning, "Look we need the money for our electric bill, I don't have the title yet, but can we work something out etc. etc." then I'd feel better about it, and the other thing is it's my parent's money. It's not our money, and I don't feel right asking them to do that.

What do you ladies think we should do?

I would call the local PD and run the vin to see if it is a stolen car or not. Then, I would try to see what the hassle is with the title. It shouldn't be that difficult to get a title. I got mine right away.

I would not give them the money until they were able to sign it over to me. It's a smurffy situation because it's family, but cars are not cheap and if something did go wrong you're the one who ends up paying for it.. literally.

Drive the car back or have him pick it up. No questions, don't feel guilty. It's his problem not yours.

No title, no money. No way.

Get him to sign a promissory note and have it notorized?

Quoting K&T:" I would not give them the money until they were able to sign it over to me. It's a smurffy situation because ... [snip!] ... it's family, but cars are not cheap and if something did go wrong you're the one who ends up paying for it.. literally. "

Yeah it is smurffy because my DH feels badly for his cousin, but I'm pissed because he pretty much tricked us and was not straight forward. I flat out asked him if he had the title in his name because I knew he had just gotten the car himself and he told me he did. He was not forthcoming or honest with us and now MY parents are involved which puts ME in a weird position with them.

Well I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels the deal is not right without the title. Good to know I'm not a cold hearted bitch LOL

Quoting Not tellin:" I would call the local PD and run the vin to see if it is a stolen car or not. Then, I would try to see ... [snip!] ... I would try to see what the hassle is with the title. It shouldn't be that difficult to get a title. I got mine right away. "

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The situation sounds fishy to me. If it comes back clean then I would get everything in writing just in case he gets the money and changes his mind and decides to take the car back and not give your money back. Family will be the quickest to screw you over. Be careful and smart about everything and make sure that it is all legal.

Quoting Spencer Pratt:" No title, no money. No way. "

 

Maybe u could offer to help them with the electric bill as a deposit for the car but don't give them the full amount for the car until u get title.

Quoting reasmom:" Maybe u could offer to help them with the electric bill as a deposit for the car but don't give them the full amount for the car until u get title."

But it's not our money. We're in no place financially to help him with his bills. My parents are the money fronting the money for the car, so essentially I would be asking my parents to pay my DH's cousin's electric bill, and that's not right. I'm not doing that.

ETA: And not to mention EVERY SINGLE MEMBER of DH's family struggles for money. Not 30 minutes ago DH's mom called and asked if we could lend her money for groceries... If we help out one person, people will be coming to us every month asking for money. I'm not doing that.

I would either take the car back and tell them you'll buy it when they have the title...or maybe bring up a letter of some sort for you both to sign and have it notarized. That way if anything happens you have that in court to show if he decided to try and screw you all over.

Quoting Ashley Jean ♥:" I would either take the car back and tell them you'll buy it when they have the title...or maybe bring ... [snip!] ... have it notarized. That way if anything happens you have that in court to show if he decided to try and screw you all over. "

I don't even think he would try to screw us over and if it was OUR money, I might even consider it or go half now, half when we get the title, but it's not our money. It's my parent's money and I don't feel comfortable asking them to shell out that much money when they have nothing to show for it. That's not right.

i didn't even read all of this...but it seems shady....