I tell my kids that just like people all look and think differently, they also believe differently. I would also apply that to any other kids that ask me.

I think it's more important to make them understand that there is no one right way to think or believe, everyone is different  

We do the santa thing, but I am a bit uncomfortable with it  

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kati Iss Rollinn:</b>" My s/o doesn't want to do it,but we are anyway he can just get over that. He doesn't want our son to believe the gifts are coming from someone pretend. I want to because it's fun for them to believe."</blockquote>




Poor guy, dating an inconsiderate hag like you. "I don't care about his feelings". Yeah you're a peach.

I told my son when he was 7. I am Santa so thats how I know if your naughty or nice! My daughter knew when she was 8 she said " I knwo he isnt real cause I never get what I ask for " haha..

I will be telling Eva that Santa WAS (not is) real because he really did exist. The legend comes from an old european guy who used to make and deliver toys to every child in his village on christmas eve. That part is true but I will also let her know that the Santa people speak of today is just a myth.
It does bug me when Santa gets all the credit for the gifts that kids get. I was always told by my parents that Santa only brings the gifts in the stocking that would be by my bed. It was filled with small token gifts and inexpensive things. The larger presents downstairs were from family and friends and I was never told they were from Santa. That way I could write thank you cards to the right people. Some of my friends tell their kids that ALL of their gifts are from santa.....So that lovely toy that must've cost grandma loads.... well grandma will never get the thanks for it. How is that right?

Quoting Emmiboo:" I will be telling Eva that Santa WAS (not is) real because he really did exist. The legend comes from ... [snip!] ... that lovely toy that must've cost grandma loads.... well grandma will never get the thanks for it. How is that right?"

Tell Eva it's the Doctor that brings her gifts and play a Tardis noise outside her door lol

Quoting Emmiboo:" I will be telling Eva that Santa WAS (not is) real because he really did exist. The legend comes from ... [snip!] ... that lovely toy that must've cost grandma loads.... well grandma will never get the thanks for it. How is that right?"

We have the presents from us be from santa and the rest of the family (grandmas etc) be from them. I don't need credit for giving my kid gifts. Seems a bit selfish to me, but thanking other members of the family who do it out of love (not that we don't) is still a part of it. It doesn't have to be one or the other

Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:" Tell Eva it's the Doctor that brings her gifts and play a Tardis noise outside her door lol"

Definitely a better idea!

Quoting Squid Kid:" We have the presents from us be from santa and the rest of the family (grandmas etc) be from them. I ... [snip!] ... members of the family who do it out of love (not that we don't) is still a part of it. It doesn't have to be one or the other"

Oh no.... I didn't mean it to sound like I really need the credit for giving my kids gifts. I just meant I think kids should thank the right people that's all.

Quoting Squid Kid:" We have the presents from us be from santa and the rest of the family (grandmas etc) be from them. I ... [snip!] ... members of the family who do it out of love (not that we don't) is still a part of it. It doesn't have to be one or the other"

I think that the idea that Mom and Dad saved to BUY them a toy is a lot better a lesson then Santa got it because Elves made it. I think the idea that it is purchased because the kids are loved and fortunate is a much better idea, because then the item has more value then it it's just made by some guy who has lots of elves.

Quoting she nan igans:" I think that the idea that Mom and Dad saved to BUY them a toy is a lot better a lesson then Santa got ... [snip!] ... is a much better idea, because then the item has more value then it it's just made by some guy who has lots of elves. "

But they'll get that when they're older. They're not always going to think that way. So why can't they have both?

Quoting Squid Kid:" But they'll get that when they're older. They're not always going to think that way. So why can't they have both?"

I'm not saying they "can't." I'm not against other people doing it. I don't, and was explaining the reasoning. It isn't selfish. I think that for my kids, I'd rather they understand that the gifts are from their Mom and Dad, not some magical man. They grow up then understanding sacrifice. They have that toy because we decided to buy it for them, which then makes it have worth. Christmas isn't something that means they gets tons of stuff from a stranger if they're "good", it's a family thing where we all sacrifice and buy or make things for the ones we love.

I'm not against others telling their kids about Santa, but we don't choose to do it for a number of reasons.

I feel like you shouldn't tell children that does believe in Santa that he isn't real to children that aren't yours and you shouldn't tell a child that doesn't believe in Santa that he is real. In my opinion, If someone already knows that you child does or doesn't believe Santa and tries to make them think he is or isn't real, is totally rude. If someone who, didn't know i'd tell them and then hope they at least respect how i feel about that and not say anything. Personally, I don't like talking to children about Santa because I don't believe in telling any future children of my about Santa and bringing up Santa comes a lot of question and i am not going to answer a question and lie to a child, but i am not going to answer the question and tell them the truth because that would not be my place to be and i feel it'd be crossing boundaries.

Quoting Ryloonjimama:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Fatty McRunnerPants:</b>" It makes a difference. So someone ... [snip!] ... teacher know your religious beliefs? I thought there was supposed to be activities set aside for families who didn't believe."

The teacher normally puts on the curriculum what's going to be done when. Then if there's a problem the parent can bring it to the teacher's attention. All I wanted was a chance to "debrief" and have it fun for him while still maintaining our values and traditions.

I don't feel that children should have to protect other children's beliefs or disbeliefs. I don't feel that it's my child's responsibilty to "keep the secret" just because he knows Santa isn't real. That's not fair to him or our traditions.

Quoting Emmiboo:" I will be telling Eva that Santa WAS (not is) real because he really did exist. The legend comes from ... [snip!] ... that lovely toy that must've cost grandma loads.... well grandma will never get the thanks for it. How is that right?"

Thats what my kids were told was that Santa was real at one point in time etc....They are 10 and 4 and know he is not real. We still do Santa gifts and stockings tho, for the younger kids in the family that still believe.

Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Kati Iss Rollinn:</b>" My s/o doesn't want to do it,but we are ... [snip!] ... Poor guy, dating an inconsiderate hag like you. "I don't care about his feelings". Yeah you're a peach."

Hag? let's define that real fast. Hag = an ugly old woman. Well that's a fail on your part as i'm way younger than you and you're pushing what,30? So now that i've cleared that up,next. Yep poor him,because i'd like my child to experience the joy i did as a child that must make me such an evil mommy and spouse rofl. I'm a very tasty peach btw,want a taste? One more thing you said dating. Do you not know the difference between dating and being in a relationship? Dating would be seeing other people,looking for mr.right and not taking things seriously. Relationship what i'm in and have been in for almost 6 years is a commitment. I realise this is off topic,but i just had to point that out,because i found your post beyond ignorant.