Bf getting on my nerves!

During my pregnancy i wasn't interested in sex until later on and that's when he didn't want to have sex. After i had my son 3 months ago we waited the 6 weeks and we started having sex again (Protected of course) But nowadays i don't want anything to do with sex and i have to tell him no all the time. I just don't feel if hes not spending "Some" time with me why should i give him sex when i definitely don't want it. He works late night shifts so he sleeps most of the morning but yet still doesn't want to deal with me in the afternoon. He will play games all day until he has to work and act like we should have sex when half the time i feel like were just roommates. He seems to think ignoring me all day and then getting sex is what a relationship is. I'm sorry honey that's not how it works. He gets mad when I tell him no. We argue all the time over it and its just sad to hear that he is willing to cheat on me if i don't have sex with him. Like telling me that, is going to make me want to sleep with you... your smart. Just the things he says makes me so agitated. He was asked if he proposed would i say yes i told him i would probably say yes, I asked him why. He told me "It will be easier to get visitation if you leave me".... (Currently trying to get visitation with his daughter from previous relationship) He compulsively lies to everyone when there is no real reason to lie. He is annoyingly jealous, always accusing me of cheating when I'm at home all day with my son. I sometimes don't know why i bother trying to deal with him. Just needed to rant, so i don't lose my sanity.  

He's probably cheating already. Lady, maybe you would be better off without him. Talking with him might help, but then again, you're competing with a video game.

I don't know either of you do my opinion means virtually nothing but, in my opinion, you'd be better off without the stress and wait for someone who is willing to treat you better and respect your decisions. That's just me though. He could just use a stern talking to but, doesn't found like the kind of guy that would actually listen with an open mind. :/ Good luck mama.

Quoting MamaAkemi:" He's probably cheating already. Lady, maybe you would be better off without him. Talking with him might help, but then again, you're competing with a video game."

i dont agree with you

if she doesnt start having sex than he could end up cheating but doubt he is now.

I've been suspecting that he's been cheating. The problem with talking to him one sentence will start an argument. He is a man child and he drives me nuts. Chooses everything over our son and me. Video games come first I guess. I just wish things were different..

Those who are accusatory of cheating are usually feeling guilt because they are in fact the ones cheating, or it could be because he's been cheated on before.

Either way, sex or no sex, he needs to pull his own weight as a father. I hope things get better for you.

Quoting MX23:" i dont agree with you if she doesnt start having sex than he could end up cheating but doubt he is now."

Threatening to cheat is not the way to obtain sex from a woman. He could be the one cheating for all we know. A good way for him to get sex is to 1) stop playing video games and play with his son. 2) Compliment his girlfriend on how attractive she is to him in a positive light. 3) Stop being a man child.

OP, I'm so sorry you have to deal with this. You do not deserve to be treated like this and accused of cheating.

i feel the same way about sex, and my SO treats me kind of the same way with the whole just playing video games & such. he doesnt treat me like im anyone special so its hard for me to want to have sex with him.

but he shouldnt threaten to cheat, that is smurffy. he sounds like he kind of sucks :\