re: Is this wrong?

Quoting she nan igans:" As I said, if the issue is SENSORY that's different. However, those can be worked on. IT isn't tastebuds ... [snip!] ... meal they don't like, that's different. But the issue is kids refusing a large selection of healthy foods in order to eat junk."

yes! this is what im saying haha

<blockquote><b>Quoting she nan igans:</b>" As I said, if the issue is SENSORY that's different. However, those can be worked on. IT isn't tastebuds ... [snip!] ... meal they don't like, that's different. But the issue is kids refusing a large selection of healthy foods in order to eat junk."</blockquote>



There are tons of good foods though. Why not talk to the child and find out what healthy foods they DO like instead of trying to force them into liking something just because you do? I dont like cut up peppers but I do like broccoli, carrots, cucumbers. I'm not going to make myself eat something I dont like when there are plenty of other healthy foods I do.

Quoting Amanda Contento:" So true. For the OP you are making your kids be picky eaters as much as the mother of the child you are ... [snip!] ... Bring it up to his mom that you want her to send him with food because you only have healthy things and he wont eat it."

And have him eat crap in front of her kids?

Heck no. That doesn't fly at my house. Other parents know that my kids eat healthy and so we have healthy food at our house. And guess what? If they're picky because they'd rather eat apples then candy? Water then coke? I'd be happy as hell, lol.

Again, if there is ONE food they don't like? Sure, that's one thing. I'll make allowances for that. If they don't like any veggie but corn and want to eat pizza and soda only? Then no. Taste buds may be different, but kids also need to learn to eat well.

Cheesecake is delicious. I'd love to eat it everyday. It's not good for me though, so I don't. It's just as important to learn to eat mindfully as it is to worry about "I dont' like that." Kids need to learn that they can't always eat their favorite foods if they aren't good for them, because it will make them sick.

Quoting Jude the Super Kinkster:" <blockquote><b>Quoting she nan igans:</b>" As I said, if the issue is SENSORY that's ... [snip!] ... carrots, cucumbers. I'm not going to make myself eat something I dont like when there are plenty of other healthy foods I do."

yes i agree with this. I would ask and see what kinda things he does like, and before i made it id be like hey do you like this. I was just saying that i wouldnt let the kid tell me what they are eating and give them junk cause theres no way a kid will only eat pizza, pop, and mcdonalds.

Quoting *Lindsey*(6 weeks):" wtf 20 ??? i cant even eat that. My kids barely can eat 4. If the kid is hungry he/she will eat whatever ... [snip!] ... really is hungry. If they dont want to eat your food they must not really be hungry adn just be more of a habit of eating junk!"

its shocking. one day i ordered a pizza for lunch when i was babysitting. they asked for 3 cheese peices. i gave it to them.. then they asked for 3 MORE peices.. and on top of that ate a giant peice of watermelon. im just sorta shocked that alittle person can eat that much.

Quoting Jude the Super Kinkster:" <blockquote><b>Quoting she nan igans:</b>" As I said, if the issue is SENSORY that's ... [snip!] ... carrots, cucumbers. I'm not going to make myself eat something I dont like when there are plenty of other healthy foods I do."

I've said it a ton of times. If there is something specifically a kid doesn't like, fine. We can work with it. If they LIKE pizza and soda, well that's too bad. They're not getting that. If they're used to eating that way, they will generally refuse all GOOD food because they are not accustomed to it.

Tastebuds have to be changed as well. When I was eating crap I loved chocolate and didn't care for lots of veggies. After a while of cutting out the crap, my tastebuds adapted and now fruits and veggies are really good!

Sugar and crap does a number to our bodies. Those things CAN be changed. If my kids don't like a specific food, I'll work around it. If they just don't like veggies, then that's just too bad. If they're hungry they'll eat the good food. They will not starve themselves, even if they're stubborn. My son will refuse things sometimes (I've had to struggle with him and food), and he'll go to bed without eating dinner. That's fine. No dinner one night won't kill the kid. And guess what? The next day, he gets up, and he eats good food, and his eating habits are getting better and better. I did it with his sister and she eats all sorts of foods.

Also, lots of kids refuse new food without even trying it. They resist change, because it's hard. That doesn't mean you shouldn't do it.

Quoting ☮ Phuket:" its shocking. one day i ordered a pizza for lunch when i was babysitting. they asked for 3 cheese peices. ... [snip!] ... MORE peices.. and on top of that ate a giant peice of watermelon. im just sorta shocked that alittle person can eat that much."

my daughter eats alot too...i have no clue where she puts it cause she is tiny. but she does eat more than me. Recently i have been limiting it cause im kinda thinking you cant be hungry still, and if you are you can have a fruit or a yogurt or something after. but 6 pieces of pizza is a little crazy! thats acutally kinda gross.

<blockquote><b>Quoting *Lindsey*(6 weeks):</b>" yes i agree with this. I would ask and see what kinda things he does like, and before i made it id be ... [snip!] ... let the kid tell me what they are eating and give them junk cause theres no way a kid will only eat pizza, pop, and mcdonalds."</blockquote>




And that's cool, I get that, but I feel like people don't get that kids are people too. I don't force LO to eat stuff he doesnt want to. If he doesnt want broccoli, he can have salad. If he doesnt want an orange, he can have an apple. I let him have healthy choices without starving him or forcing him to eat what he doesnt like or feel like eating.

Quoting Taylor Migliano:" I'm just stuck on the fact that this 9 year old is drinking coke. Ddnoensondoelsnd ewwwww."

then youd really be pissed to know that the younger sibling of this chld who is about 20 months old, gets coke in the sippy cup.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ☮ Phuket:</b>" its shocking. one day i ordered a pizza for lunch when i was babysitting. they asked for 3 cheese peices. ... [snip!] ... MORE peices.. and on top of that ate a giant peice of watermelon. im just sorta shocked that alittle person can eat that much."</blockquote>




My kid can eat more than me at breakfast. It's his biggest meal of the day.

Quoting ☮ Phuket:" then youd really be pissed to know that the younger sibling of this chld who is about 20 months old, gets coke in the sippy cup."

smh.

Quoting Jude the Super Kinkster:" <blockquote><b>Quoting *Lindsey*(6 weeks):</b>" yes i agree with this. I would ask ... [snip!] ... an apple. I let him have healthy choices without starving him or forcing him to eat what he doesnt like or feel like eating."

The point I feel like you're missing is that that is TOTALLY okay. Teagan helps me pick out dinner too.

But does she get to say "I don't like salad? I want to eat mac&cheese?" No. Does she get to say "I don't like veggies Mom, I want candy?" No. She doesn't get to replace good food with bad food. I won't make special "toddler" meals for her just because she'd prefer pb&j every meal.

Apple or orange? fine. She picks out the types of yogurt she wants. She helps choose sides for dinner or what goes into the salad. She does not get to swap bad food for good food though, and I think that is generally what people are talking about.

cut up celery? Nah, she doesn't care for that. She'll eat sliced bell peppers and carrots and that's fine. Now, she doesn't get to not eat the bell peppers and carrots because she wants gummy candies.

THATS what I'm talking about. So many parents (and I was guilty of it to with my son for a while) give in so easily and their kids end up only wanting to eat crap. Why? Because they like it. They go "well, they don't like it, I'm going to make mac&cheese!" Nope. My kids will give the food a good and honest try. If they truly don't like one specific meal or ingredient, I will give them more of something else that is healthy, but I won't give them "toddler food" just to keep them happy/.

Quoting ☮ Phuket:" then youd really be pissed to know that the younger sibling of this chld who is about 20 months old, gets coke in the sippy cup."

ok your killing me

<blockquote><b>Quoting she nan igans:</b>" The point I feel like you're missing is that that is TOTALLY okay. Teagan helps me pick out dinner ... [snip!] ... I will give them more of something else that is healthy, but I won't give them "toddler food" just to keep them happy/."</blockquote>




I'm not missing the point, I get it. I'm just saying it's insane to just demand that a child eat something and not let them help pick and then expect them to go hungry for not eatimg it.

Quoting Jude the Super Kinkster:" <blockquote><b>Quoting *Lindsey*(6 weeks):</b>" yes i agree with this. I would ask ... [snip!] ... an apple. I let him have healthy choices without starving him or forcing him to eat what he doesnt like or feel like eating."

exactly. I was never saying that they should have choices. and no broccoli but salad is fine...one fruit over another is fine...Im just talking about when they strictly are telling you they dont want that, they dont like it, and they are pretty muhc only wanting to eat junk, which is what OP made it sound like, the kid just wanted crap! I mean there is so many healthy things are still yummy and good for kids like yogurts, those fruit sauces, bear paws, even the welches fruit snacks...granola bars. They should get a choice yes, but they shouldnt get the choice to eat junk over something healthy just cause thats what they want. cause of coarse they are going to pick the junk everytime...what kid wouldnt want mcdonalds or pop everyday...its yummy of coarse they would pick that.