Great Grandma...

I'm 17 weeks pregnant, and finally... FINALLY started to show.

Most of my immediate family knows about the baby and has dealt with being pissed at me... some were a bit more understanding than others, and for the most part (excluding my dad who I have problems being in the same room with because of the things he said about the baby and my boyfriend) just about everyone's been pretty supportive.

But there's one person who doesn't know; my grandma. My parent's live right next door so they can take care of her since she's 91 years old and just starting on the early stages of Alzheimers.

Now, here's a little background. I was with my ex boyfriend for about 5 years before I met my current boyfriend who also fathers my baby. Since our condom failed, we got surprised with this little guy pretty early in our relationship... something normal people would see as taboo and irresponsible... we're also not married. Obviously.

Also, I have to say this was about 6 or 7 years ago, my brother moved into an apartment with his then girlfriend (now wife) and when my grandma caught wind of that, she basically had a smurf fit and almost disowned him. I don't think they spoke until they were married.

And one last thing; I remember a few years ago when I dropped her mail off at her door, she stopped me for no particular reason and told me to not have sex because if I got pregnant before marriage, that would make my baby a bastard. I might have been 15 at the time, maybe a little bit younger.

So now I'm faced with a problem. There's going to be a great grandchild, and I don't know if I can tell her about him... Don't get me wrong, she's actually a sweet lady, but she's also very judgmental. I don't see her much anymore because she stresses me out with how far she's gone, I've never been good at taking care of her, and she's never really accepted me fully, but Thanksgiving is this Thursday, and like every year, my brother, his wife and brand new baby, my parents, and my boyfriend and I are all going to her house for dinner... and... it's pretty hard for me to hide my little baby bump. Even if I were to wear a loose fitting shirt... you can still tell. And if she can't, she's going to flat out call me fat, or hand me a newspaper clipping on fast and easy ways to lose weight. It's just the way she is. -_-

So what should I do? Tell her, or not...

I would talk to your parents about it since they care for her.

Alzheimer's patients tend to not deal well with great change.

If it were me, I would wait until the child is born, depending if you see her a lot or not...

I would also get your parents to tell her first in case she has a very negative reaction.

Quoting JessieLeeAnne:" I would talk to your parents about it since they care for her. Alzheimer's patients tend to not deal ... [snip!] ... if you see her a lot or not... I would also get your parents to tell her first in case she has a very negative reaction. "

I'll definitely plan on letting my mom tell her... but a new development has come down; my brother's mother in law is going to be there... and she can't keep her mouth shut. We'll see.  

<blockquote><b>Quoting Amanda S. K. Cooper:</b>" I'll definitely plan on letting my mom tell her... but a new development has come down; my brother's mother in law is going to be there... and she can't keep her mouth shut. We'll see.  "</blockquote>




Lol, sounds like its gonna be an exciting Thanksgiving. I would just let it be, go with the flow. If she's pissed, so be it. She'll get over it. And don't let her bad mouthing make you feel any different about this pregnacy, if you're happy, be happy, don't let anyone ruin that. And its kinda hard to say negative things to someone whoa super happy about the situation.

Goodluck! Keep us posted... maybe you should take video of your dinner? Lol