my 10 month old WONT sleep!

I feel like I've tried everything to get him to sleep at night and he still wont. He started sleeping through the night at about 3 months old. Then about a month ago he stopped. I have taken away his day time naps, given him warm baths with lavender oil, used lavender baby lotion, put a fan in is room for white noise, given him childrens motrin thinking maybe he was in pain from teething, used gripe water for gas, tried Hylands teething tablets, Last night I even resorted to a small bowl of oatmeal before bed thinking maybe he was getting hungry through the night. Nothing is working.
I will put him down for bed around 8pm... and by 9pm he's wide awake and screaming. I will calm him down, put him back to sleep and he'll be back up and screaming an hour or less later. This happens all night long. Sometimes it will take me 2-3hours to get him to fall back asleep, too. When I give him a bottle at night he will drink maybe an ounce or 2 and then he's done with it so I know that's not what he wants.
I have never co-slept with my son. He's been in his own bed since he was born. He will fall asleep while I rock him but as soon as I lay him back down in his crib he starts screaming. I have stood over his crib for hours rubbing his belly, chest and back to try and get him to fall asleep but as soon as I stop he starts screaming. I started taking him to bed with me recently. This doesn't solve the problem. He still wakes up every hour but is easier to calm and falls asleep faster while I am laying next to him. I do NOT want to make this a habit. It only came down to this as a last resort because SO gets furious with me when DS cries for too long at night.

Please help if you can. I don't know what else to do.

TIA.

Why take away his daytime naps? Try giving them back. My.1.5 year still naps in the afternoon and sleeps GREAT at night.

Just a suggestion.

Day time naps aren't necessarily a bad thing. He might be overly tired and restless so he can't sleep. Try an afternoon nap and see if that helps him sleep better.

Quoting Mi'chell Petrie:" Why take away his daytime naps? Try giving them back. My.1.5 year still naps in the afternoon and sleeps GREAT at night. Just a suggestion."

I have given them back... I tried it to see if thats why he wasn't sleeping. It obviously wasn't the reason. He gets 2 naps a day, one at 11 and one at 3. They usually last about a half an hour each.

most times when kids are about to go through a developmental change their sleep gets out of wack. Is he trying to walk? If so that may be it. They get more clingy when they make these transistions and it's just a phase. How long how this been going on? It also may be his 1 year molars. I swear my DD didn't sleep more than 2 hours at a time for 2 months until hers came in. I just either brought her into our bed or camped out on her floor. Just know that there is a reason for him not sleeping and that you will get through it

Random thing, dont use lavender on your boy.

Quoting Take me as I am:" Random thing, dont use lavender on your boy."

why not? It's supposed to be a natural sleep aid.

Quoting summerbabyX2:" most times when kids are about to go through a developmental change their sleep gets out of wack. Is ... [snip!] ... into our bed or camped out on her floor. Just know that there is a reason for him not sleeping and that you will get through it"

He hasn't been trying to walk. He's cruising along furniture but he's still not confident enough to let go and stand alone. He recently cut the top 2 teeth next to his 2 front teeth (if that makes sense) so I thought that was the reason for his sleeplessness... so I was giving him Hylands teething tablets and childrens motrin when the tablets didn't work (rotating between the 2) but that doesn't seem to be the issue.
He is, however, constantly chewing on his fingers in his back gums but when I rub them I don't feel any bumps or see anything that would indicate his molars are starting to push through. He is fine during the day, his normal happy, hyper self. It's just at night that these problems occur.

my 9 month old only takes A nap a day(around 11/12).. and he sleeps most of the night except when he gets up to eat. from like 730-630.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♥T-D-A♥:</b>" why not? It's supposed to be a natural sleep aid."</blockquote>


Big study on it. Not good for boys. Messes with the hormones. Been out since 07.

Quoting Take me as I am:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ♥T-D-A♥:</b>" why not? It's supposed to be a natural ... [snip!] ... be a natural sleep aid."</blockquote> Big study on it. Not good for boys. Messes with the hormones. Been out since 07."

Oh I didn't know! Thank you for informing me. I just looked it up, I don't want my son having enlarged breasts, that's for sure.

Quoting j0des(+2):" my 9 month old only takes A nap a day(around 11/12).. and he sleeps most of the night except when he gets up to eat. from like 730-630."

That's pretty much how my son WAS until recently. He still gets up for his morning bottle... if he's actually asleep when it's time for his morning bottle that is.

Quoting ♥T-D-A♥:" I feel like I've tried everything to get him to sleep at night and he still wont. He started sleeping ... [snip!] ... SO gets furious with me when DS cries for too long at night. Please help if you can. I don't know what else to do. TIA."

Your SO gets furious at you when your DS is crying for too long? WTF??? Like it's your fault? What a douche!
As far as the sleeping situation... they go through phases unfortunately... they can last a week and month or a few months. It's very frustrating... but know it won't last forever. If you do not want co sleeping to become a habit, then I wouldn't start the habit. It could be very hard for you to get him out of it once its established.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♥T-D-A♥:</b>" Oh I didn't know! Thank you for informing me. I just looked it up, I don't want my son having enlarged breasts, that's for sure."</blockquote>



lol yeah probably not a good look. It smells great but not for our boys. Used it on my son when he was born in 06 and heard the study and about smurf myself lol i dont use really anything with perfumes in it

Quoting AnnaMS:" Your SO gets furious at you when your DS is crying for too long? WTF??? Like it's your fault? What a ... [snip!] ... to become a habit, then I wouldn't start the habit. It could be very hard for you to get him out of it once its established."

As far as cosleeping.. I feel like I have no choice anymore because it's the only way to calm him down. Yeah, SO is a huge jackass but he gets up for work at 6am and doesn't like to be disturbed while he sleeps. If I don't take LO to bed with me (SO and I don't sleep in the same room since LO was born) SO will yell at me and tell me to take him to bed with me anyway. It's pretty much a lose-lose situation.