Also if anyone has bee molested or abused, this can affect your enjoyment or even desire to have sex. You have to work through that first before your body will respond to it in a positive way.

I hate vaginal sex ... as in hate it. Its either super painful or just numb. I love everything else but the moment he tries to stick that thing in me I'm just 'hurry up and finish'. I've always been like this.

Quoting The (super kinky) Master:" I hate vaginal sex ... as in hate it. Its either super painful or just numb. I love everything else but ... [snip!] ... everything else but the moment he tries to stick that thing in me I'm just 'hurry up and finish'. I've always been like this."

I would talk to your doctor then. There is an issue in which women have a flab of skin in the vagina that has to be removed to ensure good sex.

Quoting MysticWitchKat:" I would talk to your doctor then. There is an issue in which women have a flab of skin in the vagina that has to be removed to ensure good sex."

up until recently it was my deprssion/anxiety and then the medications I was on for it that caused issues. Then my auto-immune disorder caused welts in my genital area that would bleed just from my clothes rubbing on them. And now the issue is compounded with scarring from the 4th degree tears I had when I had DS. I'm actually ok with not being able to have vaginal sex ... its not the b-all and end all.

Quoting The (super kinky) Master:" up until recently it was my deprssion/anxiety and then the medications I was on for it that caused issues. ... [snip!] ... degree tears I had when I had DS. I'm actually ok with not being able to have vaginal sex ... its not the b-all and end all."

true I have a friends whose husband is a bit bigger and they just do foreplay things instead.

I could care less about actually having sex.. I just want an orgasm. if it wasn't for the fact that I love my husband and want to be as close to him as possible, I wouldnt do it at all.

Quoting MysticWitchKat:" Does it not feel good at all?"

It takes a lot and I mean a lot for it to actually feel good, I end up just feeling so disgusted   I was not like this before  

Quoting MysticWitchKat:" Also if anyone has bee molested or abused, this can affect your enjoyment or even desire to have sex. You have to work through that first before your body will respond to it in a positive way."

Hubby thinks that's my issue as well...

Quoting Anthony's Mommy  :" It takes a lot and I mean a lot for it to actually feel good, I end up just feeling so disgusted   I was not like this before  "

Before you gave birth you mean? With the same guy or someone new?

Quoting J+D=4:" Hubby thinks that's my issue as well..."

You should find someone or a group or people to talk to. Letting it out will begin the healing process. Otherwise it festers and comes out in a variety of ways.

Quoting MysticWitchKat:" You should find someone or a group or people to talk to. Letting it out will begin the healing process. Otherwise it festers and comes out in a variety of ways."

yeah hubby didn't know anything til we had been together 5 years. we dont talk about it anymore. a lot of anxiety was lifted when I finally told him.

Quoting J+D=4:" yeah hubby didn't know anything til we had been together 5 years. we dont talk about it anymore. a lot of anxiety was lifted when I finally told him."

*hugs*

Quoting MysticWitchKat:" *hugs*"

thank you

I was actually like this before I had my Son, sex was incredibly uncomfortable and most times quite painful too. It really frustrated me because I enjoyed everything else and was always very excited for the actual intercourse and then everytime it would just hurt   My DH always said it felt really tight too, then I had my Son and it must have just sorted everything out down there because my sex life has been great since lol

I LOVE sex. I think I have more of a sex drive than SO  

I enjoy it even more after having DD 8 weeks ago. It's so much better now, idk what it is. SO also says I feel tighter so that's a plus.