Would it bother you if... (having photos of ex)

If your SO had photos of them and their "ex" all over their FB. BUT here is the thing, that person was their SO but they passed away while they were together. Would it bother you if they would always still put photos of them when they were together on their FB?

Probably not much of a "debate and discuss" kind of question, but carry on...  

I wouldn't care if they were already on FB, but it would bother me if he was still posting them.

I wouldn't mind. It may help them grieve or remember happy things about that person

Yeah. Even though logically I know it shouldn't, it would.

STILL put photos up? Yes. But if they just had pictures of before that person passed i would be okay with it. But to be with soeone else, and posting pics of an ex, even if passed, is stepping outta line IMO

I wouldn't care. That's a difficult thing, and just because they aren't together (because she passed) doesn't mean that he doesn't still love her. If he treated me well, and like a priority, then I wouldn't expect him to take them down. He did have a life before me.

No. I would think he would still be grieving, no matter how long ago they died.

My sister's best friend died in a car wreck in Junior High, more than 12 years ago. Her boyfriend at the time also lost his mom in that wreck and he was with them, but lived. He still posts about her on Facebook and posts pictures. It's his way of dealing with the loss and the guilt.

Quoting Rd.:" I wouldn't care if they were already on FB, but it would bother me if he was still posting them."

this!

has he been to a counselor? maybe he is still having trouble with the grieving process or something. to me, it would seem that he is longing for that relationship that ended due to a tragedy or whatever.... ?

Quoting Chamorrita momma:" If your SO had photos of them and their "ex" all over their FB. BUT here is the thing, that person was ... [snip!] ... of them when they were together on their FB? Probably not much of a "debate and discuss" kind of question, but carry on...  "

I'd care less knowing that the ex is dead. I mean, it's worse for you because it's likely that he's still in love with her and probably thinks all the time that she was his soul mate, but it's not like he's going to cheat with her. KWIM? So you kinda gotta let him do his thing IMO

<blockquote><b>Quoting Chelsea Dawns Mama:</b>" STILL put photos up? Yes. But if they just had pictures of before that person passed i would be okay ... [snip!] ... i would be okay with it. But to be with soeone else, and posting pics of an ex, even if passed, is stepping outta line IMO"</blockquote>




 

To continue to post photos? Of course it would bother me  

My DHs fiance passed away while they were together. First I dont consider her an ex. He still has a few pics of her on FB, it doesent bother me one bit. She died, you cant be jealous of the dead.

Quoting she nan igans:" I wouldn't care. That's a difficult thing, and just because they aren't together (because she passed) ... [snip!] ... her. If he treated me well, and like a priority, then I wouldn't expect him to take them down. He did have a life before me."

  

No not really... Jesus, the person died. Come on.

Quoting MommaNoodle:" this! has he been to a counselor? maybe he is still having trouble with the grieving process or something. ... [snip!] ... or something. to me, it would seem that he is longing for that relationship that ended due to a tragedy or whatever.... ?"

well it isn't about me. DH's cousin still posts photos of her and her old boyfriend who passed away. She is now with someone else and they have a child together. She still posts photos of them and says how much she misses him. I always just wondered if her now BF ever has/had a problem with that or felt awkward about it.