re: chick is pregnent and i dont want it

Quoting MX23:" yeah i really hope its a boy. i know i got some smurf on here for saying that but its just how i feel ... [snip!] ... i guess. if it is a girl it doesnt mean im gonna hate her or not do anything with her cuz i will. i would just prefer a boy. "

it's normal to feel that way. when i got pregnant with my daughter, i was hoping for a girl so badly because i hadn't been with her dad for very long and i felt like, "ok, if he leaves, i can probably handle a girl better on my own." lol. idc if people give me smurf for that, but they won't. because it's normal. and most parents have a preference, but not all voice it. and in the end, we all love our kids just as much no matter what the sex.

plus, regardless of if it's a boy or a girl, he/she will probably love to learn whatever you know and do whatever you anyway, even if the stuff is more 'boy" oriented.

Quoting MommaNoodle:"   OP, it sounds like they are "trying" to make you get mad and lash out, so that then they can tell ... [snip!] ... nice to her (sister), but not be around her and the bf alone anymore. they sound like they are trying to get you into trouble."

you might be right cuz they just kept waiting for it. ill admit it was hard to stand there and not yell back. if my gf wasnt there i dont think i would of held back. i didnt even know what to tell my parents when they asked me how it went. i just told them ok. i just dont want them to start any trouble cuz if they found out he hit me they prolly would call her parents or even the cops.

Quoting MommaNoodle:" it's normal to feel that way. when i got pregnant with my daughter, i was hoping for a girl so badly ... [snip!] ... he/she will probably love to learn whatever you know and do whatever you anyway, even if the stuff is more 'boy" oriented."

yeah i hear people all the time saying what they prefer. as long as you care for them the same i dont see a problem with that. i would never leave my gf or the baby or just not care for it the same if it was girl.

Quoting MX23:" yeah i really hope its a boy. i know i got some smurf on here for saying that but its just how i feel ... [snip!] ... i guess. if it is a girl it doesnt mean im gonna hate her or not do anything with her cuz i will. i would just prefer a boy. "

Ya I understand girls usually want a girl and guys usually want a boy. Just make sure you keep in mind that it could be a girl so your not too disappointed if it is one. The good thing about girls is they usually have a pretty big place in their heart For their dad. Some more good advice I can give you is your girlfriends hormones will be changing and she might not be her self so just make sure you make her feel wanted. I know that was pregnant that was always a big thing for me..she needs to feel like you put her first.

Quoting Sarah24Michelle:" Ya I understand girls usually want a girl and guys usually want a boy. Just make sure you keep in mind ... [snip!] ... make her feel wanted. I know that was pregnant that was always a big thing for me..she needs to feel like you put her first."

Not my SO, lol - he said if it's a boy, he's trading it in for a chihuahua.   

Quoting LolaMcKitten:" Not my SO, lol - he said if it's a boy, he's trading it in for a chihuahua.   "

Haha ya my husband actually wanted a girl first but I kinda think he was just saying that.

Quoting Sarah24Michelle:" Ya I understand girls usually want a girl and guys usually want a boy. Just make sure you keep in mind ... [snip!] ... make her feel wanted. I know that was pregnant that was always a big thing for me..she needs to feel like you put her first."

this is very good advice! i know i felt that way, and do again now. my bf, however, is not reciprocating, so i am feeling a bit depressed.... but anyway, as women and the ones who are bearing the child, we tend to think about it all the time. we don't always have the option of putting baby second in our lives. it's hard not to think about the person growing inside of you at least daily, if not minute to minute, lol. so, it's important for us to feel like our partner is just as invested in the child and in us and we are. does that make sense? it's kind of complicated while still being a simple thing. little things like reading some of those books and telling her what you learned or picking out a few baby items that you think are cute (a stuffed toy or an outfit) will make her feel like you're interested in everything that's going on with her and the baby.

BD wanted a girl from the start because he cant relate to boys because he didnt have a dad around growing up. He is wrapped around DDs finger, but now that he has experience with her, he is okay with the thought of having a boy in the future.


OP, you should explain to your gf parents what their other daughter and boyfriend did to you, because im sure they wouldnt tolerate HIM acting like an animal and getting physical, if they didnt tolerate you speaking rudely to their daughter. Thats not right. File a report against him, hes too told to get away with smurf like that.

Quoting MX23:" i asked my parents if i could be allowed to go over to my gfs house to apoligize to her sister and they ... [snip!] ... mad at her sister now so at least she isnt mad at me. at least i tried to do the right thing and didnt loose my temper there."

Good job in not fighting back with them. So immature.... fighting with a teenager. I'm sure your gf will tell her parents that you apologized and that they didn't take it well.

Thats so great that you were the bigger person and walked away  
It takes a lot of courage and will power to apologise and walk away in the face of a fight.
I thinkvyou should tell your parents what happened, it would be good for that dickhead to get charged by the cops, he shouldnt get away with it.
Just because your trying to stay in the good books with your gf's parents, doesnt mean you have to take abuse from some dick bag that has nothing to do with the situation.
You are doing so well, and it's wrong what they did.
Also if that guy is on drugs it will be easier to get your gf living with you, considering it would be unsafe for your baby to be around them with their anger issues etc.
Plus, your parents have been really good to you, you dont want to keep them in the dark and then have them find out some other way and then be upset that you're hiding things from them.

Quoting Sarah24Michelle:" Ya I understand girls usually want a girl and guys usually want a boy. Just make sure you keep in mind ... [snip!] ... make her feel wanted. I know that was pregnant that was always a big thing for me..she needs to feel like you put her first."

ok thats good to know then. i keep hearing on here how girls really change when they are pregnant. kinda scary. lol. i dont want her to change but ill do my best to make her feel wanted. maybe i can start by walking her to all her classes and carrying her bag for her. i know she was worried about how people will look at her when she starts to get bigger.

Quoting MommaNoodle:" this is very good advice! i know i felt that way, and do again now. my bf, however, is not reciprocating, ... [snip!] ... (a stuffed toy or an outfit) will make her feel like you're interested in everything that's going on with her and the baby."

i never thought of it like that but i kinda get it. i really want to show her that im interested in everything especially after what happened. i was buying a hat for a sports team online and saw a link for newborn clothes. is that the kind of stuff i could buy? that would be so cool to get it something with logos of all my favorite sports teams.

Quoting MX23:" ok thats good to know then. i keep hearing on here how girls really change when they are pregnant. kinda ... [snip!] ... classes and carrying her bag for her. i know she was worried about how people will look at her when she starts to get bigger. "

Just stick by her, thats all you can do.

Pregnancy messes with your hormones. You think PMS is bad? Imagine PMS for 9 months straight. It's not fun for her, either, trust me. You can be laughing one minute and be in tears 5 seconds later, and it can be over something as silly as food. I have straight up cried over a burger before.

Quoting i ♥ nora:" BD wanted a girl from the start because he cant relate to boys because he didnt have a dad around growing ... [snip!] ... speaking rudely to their daughter. Thats not right. File a report against him, hes too told to get away with smurf like that."

well my gf is gonna talk to her parents so im gonna let her tell them everything. she was on my side for it all so im glad and i hope they listen to her.

i wouldnt wanna get him in trouble with the cops though cuz i dont want to mess up anything with my gf and her sister. i dont care about what he did to me there. i can let that go. i just dont want him coming after me again. in a way im glad im grounded cuz i have to come str8 home from school but he said he knew where i lived. i dont know if he was just trying to scare me tho

Quoting Kelly-Ann Louise:" Thats so great that you were the bigger person and walked away   It takes a lot of courage and will ... [snip!] ... want to keep them in the dark and then have them find out some other way and then be upset that you're hiding things from them."

yeah i dont know if the cops would even do anything tho and i really want my gf and sister to get along especialy now. i wont go over there if he is there again. thats for sure. i guess i should tell my parents what happened in case he does try to do something to me or our house.

they have been good so i did feel bad lieing to them about what happened.