Canadian mother, American father, child support, help!

I would just be glad I had my baby... my oldest is 6 and his father hasn't paid a dime to support him, and Deans in private school and I have to pay his med insurance out of pocket, I paid almost 5000. For a lawyer and I still wasn't granted cs and I have to share my son 50/50... on top of being subjected to random drug testing because my ex went in crying I was a addict/alcoholic...

I would just drop it. I know you probably dont want to, but if he wants nothing to do witht the baby then his loss. Would you have to file in canada or the states?

Drop it.

you have your kid.

get a job

I don't think you have a case. That's like asking for a foreign government to award you money and I don't think a judge would. I would let it go.

That's retarded in my opinion. He helped make the child, he should help support the child!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Aub's.xo:</b>" That's retarded in my opinion. He helped make the child, he should help support the child!"</blockquote>




Ok??

I had an aunt who's babys dad faked his own death to get out of paying child support,   shouldn't be that serious...

Be happy u have ur baby and ur not in my situation, where courts say he dosnt have to pay u and u have to give up ur child 50/50

It's not "retarded". Have you ever lived in the US? Where was the baby born?

The child was born in Canada. The father was apart of her life for no more than two months. I am very happy that I have full custody of my child, but in my mind it takes two people to create a child, and both of those people should support that child. Why should one person be able to just drop out of their child's life if they feel like it and not have any consequences. I made it clear to him that he can be in her life at any time, that I would prefer him to be in her life. If he doesn't want to be, that's fine! But he should still help support the child who is biologically his whether or not he wants to be involved with her.

I understand where you're coming from, but for my specific situation I don't think I'm going to just stop trying. He's a deadbeat, and they shouldn't be able to make babies if they're not going to help in supporting that child. If he didn't want to have to support a child then he should of thought about that before I got pregnant. That just my opinion though, but thanks for the input anyways.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Aub's.xo:</b>" I understand where you're coming from, but for my specific situation I don't think I'm going to just ... [snip!] ... then he should of thought about that before I got pregnant. That just my opinion though, but thanks for the input anyways."</blockquote>




Well I have a great lawyer, cost 5,000. To retain her, she can get his license suspended and if/when they pick him up he will be arrested and u can start the court from there, that's what she did for me, till they said how much I woujld get and I dropped the support case it wasn't worth it, then when we went for custody the judge didn't grant me cs, because for whatever reason I made more than him and my household expenses were more than him he was training at time...
goodluck finding him tho...