New approach?

Im at a stand still with dh. Idk how else to get it across that I'm unhappy. Last night after a whole two and a half min of sex and zero foreplay I asked dh if he tries to hold off finishing at all. He said it doesn't work for him when he's gonna come he's gonna come. And I told him I feel like I'm not even given an opportunity to finish. And he's like what do you want me to do about it. I was just like nothing. I don't want you to do anything. And I rolled over and went to bed. We've had this conversation in a million different ways. Nothing gets through to him that I'm unhappy. I know he's capable. We had amazing sex just over a year ago but now he's zero to sixty makes it a race and calls it quits when he's done.... Any ideas of how to approach this?

Quoting Just Emily  :" Im at a stand still with dh. Idk how else to get it across that I'm unhappy. Last night after a whole ... [snip!] ... a year ago but now he's zero to sixty makes it a race and calls it quits when he's done.... Any ideas of how to approach this?"

Foreplay.... don't tell him you want it or demand it or he will probably get offended and bitchy... just turn it into a game somehow, or actually play a game where lots of foreplay comes in.

I'm sorry you are going through this.

Just take charge and tease him, keep his Penis out for a bit so that way it can get u going as well

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:</b>" Foreplay.... don't tell him you want it or demand it or he will probably get offended and bitchy... ... [snip!] ... turn it into a game somehow, or actually play a game where lots of foreplay comes in. I'm sorry you are going through this."</blockquote>




I try. He gets pissy with me because he's "doing something" even if he's playing solitaire on his ipad

<blockquote><b>Quoting Just Emily  :</b>" Im at a stand still with dh. Idk how else to get it across that I'm unhappy. Last night after a whole ... [snip!] ... a year ago but now he's zero to sixty makes it a race and calls it quits when he's done.... Any ideas of how to approach this?"</blockquote>




My x did the same thing soon I just stoped being in the mood all together. He would ask y and when he finally took the time to listen everything went ok again. We had great sex. Just tell him sum forplay will help and be nice.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Christina143:</b>" Just take charge and tease him, keep his Penis out for a bit so that way it can get u going as well"</blockquote>




Yupp tried that too. It goes soft and he says I took to long. And I do everything for him he just sits there and waits.

I'm going to be mean.... he sounds like a really selfish smurf.

Get yourself a toy (or a few toys) and deny him sex till he agrees to do it right.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Just Emily  :</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Christina143:</b>" Just take charge and tease him, keep his ... [snip!] ... Yupp tried that too. It goes soft and he says I took to long. And I do everything for him he just sits there and waits."</blockquote>




My DH goes soft quite a bit now.. I'm thinking for me its cuz I'm preggers but idk.. but I don't do it anymore with him cuz I'm Soo big now and dh still trys to have sex when he's soft I'm like uhhh ur hardly in... Lol

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:</b>" I'm going to be mean.... he sounds like a really selfish smurf. Get yourself a toy (or a few toys) and deny him sex till he agrees to do it right. "</blockquote>




Lol you pretty much summed it up. Lately I find myself day dreaming about sex with the guy I was with before dh wondering why I gave that up. I was reading a book with a nice sex scene yesterday and I'm like oh babe read this. And he like oh great now she's going to expect that from him every time. I'm like no not every time but now and then would be nice.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Christina143:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Just Emily  :</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Christina143:</b>" ... [snip!] ... don't do it anymore with him cuz I'm Soo big now and dh still trys to have sex when he's soft I'm like uhhh ur hardly in... Lol"</blockquote>




We had sex up till I popped lol. I'm borderline sex addict. Dh is like I only do it cause you want it...

Quoting Just Emily  :" <blockquote><b>Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:</b>" I'm going to be mean.... he sounds like ... [snip!] ... he like oh great now she's going to expect that from him every time. I'm like no not every time but now and then would be nice."

Just once would be nice! Is your relationship good otherwise? I mean outside the bedroom?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:</b>" I'm going to be mean.... he sounds like a really selfish smurf. Get yourself a toy (or a few toys) and deny him sex till he agrees to do it right. "</blockquote>




This!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:</b>" Just once would be nice! Is your relationship good otherwise? I mean outside the bedroom?"</blockquote>




It's pretty good. Stressed cause we have a lot going on but not in danger or anything.

Quoting Just Emily  :" It's pretty good. Stressed cause we have a lot going on but not in danger or anything."

Okay, well how long has it been since you've been stressed and all that? I mean, you know how women go through dry spells? Men do go through them too, even though most women don't realize that. Maybe the stress of what's going on around y'all has really gotten to him or something.

Also, are you very aggressive in bed always? Maybe play the mild, innocent part and have him be aggressive, or visa versa...

I don't know, maybe add porn if he is into it?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:</b>" Okay, well how long has it been since you've been stressed and all that? I mean, you know how women ... [snip!] ... play the mild, innocent part and have him be aggressive, or visa versa... I don't know, maybe add porn if he is into it? "</blockquote>




Pretty much since ds got here. He seems to be high needs. I'm all over as far as what I do. I'll be aggressive or submissive. I do agree I have a much higher sex drive than him (and most normal people). We do watch porn. Not all the time but sometimes. Idk I guess I just feel like lately he's just not attracted to me or something