re: New approach?

Quoting Just Emily  :" <blockquote><b>Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:</b>" Okay, well how long has it been since ... [snip!] ... do watch porn. Not all the time but sometimes. Idk I guess I just feel like lately he's just not attracted to me or something"

maybe it's the fact that you are mom now, and not just a woman. Have you ever had your LO go to your mom's house or something for a few days? Take a vacation with just DH or something? Maybe he needs a break from being "dad".

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:</b>" maybe it's the fact that you are mom now, and not just a woman. Have you ever had your LO go to your ... [snip!] ... mom's house or something for a few days? Take a vacation with just DH or something? Maybe he needs a break from being "dad". "</blockquote>




I'm stationed in San Diego. My parents are in tx the rest of my family in oh and his family is in south dakota. The only time were away is if one of my friends takes him because of work.

Quoting Just Emily  :" Im at a stand still with dh. Idk how else to get it across that I'm unhappy. Last night after a whole ... [snip!] ... a year ago but now he's zero to sixty makes it a race and calls it quits when he's done.... Any ideas of how to approach this?"

Stop having sex with him then. Tell him that you aren't doing it to be his masturbation aide. If he isn't going to put in the time, then you aren't either.

Quoting Just Emily  :" Im at a stand still with dh. Idk how else to get it across that I'm unhappy. Last night after a whole ... [snip!] ... a year ago but now he's zero to sixty makes it a race and calls it quits when he's done.... Any ideas of how to approach this?"

My DH is the same way and it drives me abso-smurfing-lutely crazy! We are working on things now and I am hoping it gets better. You just have to sit down with him and sometimes you have to be a bitch about it to get your point across (at least I did)  , but tell him that you are unhappy and tell him exactly why. Ask him if there are things that he is unhappy with as well and there may be things that you both need to work on. And if he doesn't really like to talk about things, then write him a letter. Let him know everything in the letter that you would have said in person. I kinda felt bad for just throwing everything out there like that, but after dealing with DH being that way for the past year or so, I just blew up one day and I really think it may have hurt his feelings a little, but he finally realized it was really getting to me though...

<blockquote><b>Quoting Vanilla MILFshake.:</b>" My DH is the same way and it drives me abso-smurfing-lutely crazy! We are working on things now and I ... [snip!] ... day and I really think it may have hurt his feelings a little, but he finally realized it was really getting to me though..."</blockquote>




I was actually talking to him over text not too long ago and he told me a few things. Idk if it will help but I can hope

Quoting Just Emily  :" Im at a stand still with dh. Idk how else to get it across that I'm unhappy. Last night after a whole ... [snip!] ... a year ago but now he's zero to sixty makes it a race and calls it quits when he's done.... Any ideas of how to approach this?"

I'm sorry..

It seems like he's being selfish in this, I think in order for you to be happy with your sex life, he needs to want to please you.. right now he's being lazy about it.

I don't like his 'what do you want me to do about it?' response, because frankly, there are ways to finish a woman off without intercourse being involved. It's just lack of incentive on his part.

Quoting Just Emily  :" <blockquote><b>Quoting Vanilla MILFshake.:</b>" My DH is the same way and it drives ... [snip!] ... I was actually talking to him over text not too long ago and he told me a few things. Idk if it will help but I can hope"

Maybe it will get better. I know first hand how bad it sucks. It totally killed my self esteem for a while because most of the time I'll though it was just my fault and he didn't want me or something.  

<blockquote><b>Quoting Vanilla MILFshake.:</b>" Maybe it will get better. I know first hand how bad it sucks. It totally killed my self esteem for a ... [snip!] ... my self esteem for a while because most of the time I'll though it was just my fault and he didn't want me or something.  "</blockquote>




Yupp half the time I think it's my fault cause I'm not as pretty as I was

<blockquote><b>Quoting Just Emily  :</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Vanilla MILFshake.:</b>" Maybe it will get better. I know first ... [snip!] ... want me or something.  "</blockquote> Yupp half the time I think it's my fault cause I'm not as pretty as I was"</blockquote>




To both you ladied. If a man loves you he should show it. I bet ur still beautiful and sexy. It just goes to show some men are smurfs!!!!!

Quoting Gabrielle Hamblin:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Just Emily  :</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Vanilla ... [snip!] ... If a man loves you he should show it. I bet ur still beautiful and sexy. It just goes to show some men are smurfs!!!!!"

Thank you sweet girl.  

<blockquote><b>Quoting Gabrielle Hamblin:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Just Emily  :</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Vanilla ... [snip!] ... If a man loves you he should show it. I bet ur still beautiful and sexy. It just goes to show some men are smurfs!!!!!"</blockquote>




Thanks Hun.  

Soooo I kinda was a bitch to dh but I guess I got through. My knees are till shaking.   let's see how long this lasts.

Quoting Just Emily  :" Soooo I kinda was a bitch to dh but I guess I got through. My knees are till shaking.   let's see how long this lasts."

YAY!

Quoting Just Emily  :" Soooo I kinda was a bitch to dh but I guess I got through. My knees are till shaking.   let's see how long this lasts."

Yay! See, sometimes being a bitch will get you somewhere!  

Quoting Vanilla MILFshake.:" Yay! See, sometimes being a bitch will get you somewhere!  "

yeah I sent him a text that said Im not happy. Im too young to go the rest of my life not being happy. I still had to start things but Ill take it.