Sadly, she isn't going to get it until her child starts having health problems. Which, if her 2 year old is that big, probably won't be long. Truth be told, she'll probably deny it's obesity even then.
Naturally, an ethnicity from somewhere like Tonga could lead to larger structure (might not, but plenty of cases could), but that is just...it is beyond unhealthy.
Quoting LaLaLa...:" It's not healthy at all. She has breathing issues and eczema while I realise she's not my child she i am her aunt through marriage and the fact is she's unhealthy so imma say something."
That's sad it has been told by her doctor (right?) but she ignores it. She must not give a smurf if she eats two big macs though
It is a difficult position to be in. If the child were, say, in a slightly overweight BMI that could be easily explained by being big boned, then saying anything at all would be grossly inappropriate, even being aunt by marriage and godmother and close friend and what have you.
But if you have a 2 year old who is 61 pounds...and the mother sees nothing wrong with this and is feeding this child two Big Macs for lunch...this is a mother who is setting this child up for potentially fatal health problems. There could be arguments here that this is medical negligence at best and much uglier things might in fact be more applicable.
If the child were eating a healthy diet, and still weighed this much, this would require medical testing for a disorder, and the mother would be negligent if she forbade it, especially if it were brought up by medical staff, no? Particularly if the child did not have an equivalent height to match the weight? (Though that would be suspect in a 2 year old, as well, and I would still suspect some growth hormone issues)
Realistically, if the mother isn't listening to medical staff about what is a grossly overweight child, and is in fact feeding her 2-year-old child 2 Big Macs for lunch, I suspect the only thing that will result from discussing it with her is hurt feelings on both sides and a ruined relationship. So I can't imagine what you're going to say to her, but I hope it reaches her. I really do.
<blockquote><b>Quoting LaLaLa...:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Autumn Whisper:</b>" It is a difficult position to be in. If ... [snip!] ... at best so height and weight ratio is not any where near normal,she has had hormone tests which were all clear so no excuse."</blockquote>
Perhaps you should start by looking up the health effects of early childhood morbid obesity and show it to her? I don't think she is likely to listen to you even then, but if anything is going to get through, that might.
Sadly, I am reminded of bad daytime talk shows with similar parents and their children, and I am not sure if anything ever changed their minds, either.