re: Would this still ANNOY you?

Quoting j0des(+2):" Pssst. Mine is getting the silent treatment and sleeping on the couch ;) Extra snuggles with the kids! Score! Hmmmpf.. to deal or not deal with it tomorrow.."

Ohhh we had 4 days of the silent treatment and finally i just had to talk to him about it cos it was wearing on me.
Yay for extra snuggles   I've been sleeping in my daughter's bed with her lately haha

Quoting Mother of Broccoli.:"   I'm sorry he's such a downer. I don't know what I'd end up doing in that situation. Have you told him that you don't feel like things are really working? "

Oh yeah, that was today. (well, the most recent conversation about it)
His response, "So, what..you just want to like, hang out all day?"
Wait..what? haha he's just impossible to communicate with.
I told him if things don't take a change for the better, we'll be staying at my parents for a bit.

Quoting KNZ.:" Oh yeah, that was today. (well, the most recent conversation about it) His response, "So, what..you ... [snip!] ... to communicate with. I told him if things don't take a change for the better, we'll be staying at my parents for a bit."

Haha what does that mean?? Men are so dumb sometimes   Maybe leaving for a few days will make him think about how you see things. Have you ever left him alone with the kids?

I'd take the power cord from the computer. and I have. But I'm a bitch lol If you don't listen, I'll force you too. Mine has a mancave down in the basement and he use to do that. He doesn't anymore, he saves it for after she goes to bed.

Quoting Mother of Broccoli.:" Haha what does that mean?? Men are so dumb sometimes   Maybe leaving for a few days will make him think about how you see things. Have you ever left him alone with the kids?"

Seriously. I really just looked at him, dumbfounded haha.

He's been alone with the kids once. I think. i'm honestly trying to place the time that may have happened, and can't. haha. i may just be mistaking thinking about it one time, but it never happening.
i dont' want to cos i know he'll just set 'em in front of the TV.

Ah, nope. I had asked him to watch them while we were moving so my pregnant ass could go to the old house and move stuff. he wound up bitching about it and i took them with me.

Quoting KNZ.:" Seriously. I really just looked at him, dumbfounded haha. He's been alone with the kids once. I think. ... [snip!] ... were moving so my pregnant ass could go to the old house and move stuff. he wound up bitching about it and i took them with me."

What a piece of work   I'd be scared to leave them alone with him, but I'd try it just to try and get him to see what you do every single day. Like what happens if you get put on strict bedrest? Or when your recovering from giving birth again? He's gonna need to step up then.

<blockquote><b>Quoting KNZ.:</b>" Doesn't that reasoning just like, blow your mind? In my head, since he's been away for a good part of the day, he should WANT to be around them. "</blockquote>



That reasoning makes me soooooo mad.


Send him to my house and I'll straighten him out.

My husband works from usually about 7am and comes home between 9 and midnight 6 days a week. And on his "day off" he usually works 8 or so hours.

I work full time plus (this week and last week I am working 6 days) and I do the laundry, dishes, cook (sometimes), bake, care for and dote on the kids.

Grrr.

People like your dh piss me off, lol.

Quoting Mother of Broccoli.:" What a piece of work   I'd be scared to leave them alone with him, but I'd try it just to try and get ... [snip!] ... happens if you get put on strict bedrest? Or when your recovering from giving birth again? He's gonna need to step up then."

Ohhh man, yeah, i fear for that too-- mostly cos i've been through it with him when i had clara  

Didn't he want you guys to move in with him? I mean what did he think his life would be like once you moved in? Lol.

Was he like this when you first met him...before Clara was born? Did you all have this same problem before?

I hope you can sit down and have a long talk with him about everything. The guy needs to grow up now or he's gonna end up being alone forever! Not many women would put up with that BS. Good luck!

Quoting pilot Jess:" <blockquote><b>Quoting KNZ.:</b>" Doesn't that reasoning just like, blow your mind? ... [snip!] ... I do the laundry, dishes, cook (sometimes), bake, care for and dote on the kids. Grrr. People like your dh piss me off, lol."

I seriously will send him there if you can send him back all fixed up haha.

And SERIOUSLY.
i try to tell him how lucky he/we are for our schedules.
and what's worse, is we were seperated for two years, so there was a time where he was only seeing our daughter for a couple days/a couple hours a week...he should feel fortunate for the time he has, not give it away to tv shows and games.

Quoting Layla's Momma ♥:" Didn't he want you guys to move in with him? I mean what did he think his life would be like once you ... [snip!] ... The guy needs to grow up now or he's gonna end up being alone forever! Not many women would put up with that BS. Good luck!"

EXACTLY MY THOUGHT! and exactly why i was so wary about moving in.

i mean, he's always been a homebody, but before clara there wasn't an option of really displacing himself from family, cos our/his place was smaller, haha.

But even when we were seperated and he was with someone else, she would be bummed cos literally all they'd do is she'd watch him play his game/watch TV.  

H<blockquote><b>Quoting KNZ.:</b>" I seriously will send him there if you can send him back all fixed up haha. And SERIOUSLY. i try ... [snip!] ... for a couple days/a couple hours a week...he should feel fortunate for the time he has, not give it away to tv shows and games."</blockquote>



He sounds so selfish  

I'm sorry you have to deal with that, that's no way to live.

Yes it would and it would never happen in our house I don't know how you deal with all of that.. i used to work full time and would come home and completely take over everything even waking up in the middle of the night with a fussy kid.. my husband works and goes to school full time and the only kid less time he gets is when he is busy doing homework and when he wants to work in the garage for a couple of hours. he has games but he only plays when the kids are in bed..

Quoting KNZ.:" Ugh   that's really where my head has been at lately, but it's really just not realistic. My mom came ... [snip!] ... of it) and she was telling me that i need to just let some things go with him, but like...i DO...and that's been the problem."

my step mom told me to do whatever to stay with my husband and keep the family together for our kids if we ever think about going our separate ways.. I was like what do you mean she's like well I have dealt with all of your dads cheating and verbal abuse for the sake of the kids.. yeah no thanks and she doesn't realize that thats the very reason my brother and sister hate living at home and can't wait until they are 18 to get the smurf out..

All I can say, no judgment, but I couldn't do it. Been there and done that, never going back.