re: Would this still ANNOY you?

Quoting Mother of Broccoli.:" Some things are easy to let go of or ignore, but not spending time with his family isn't something that would slide by me."

I agree because that's telling me you don't care about me or the kids. Kids aren't something you put away to play with when you are bored :-P.

lol even at this very moment I just got done with homework and he is in the game room sleeping on the sofa with the lights off waiting for his buddy to text him to tell him he is on. Seriously? Go to bed.

Quoting j0des(+2):" <blockquote><b>Quoting KNZ.:</b>" I hate it. We've had family over for dinner and ... [snip!] ... is supposed to be watching our infant who is cruising furniture. I feel like all I do is bitch. Its frustrating and exhausting."

It really is. and i usually keep my mouth shut cos we have a history of arguing and i've really just been working at changing it. (we were seperated for two years) but it's just like, ugh.

Quoting Mother of Broccoli.:" Some things are easy to let go of or ignore, but not spending time with his family isn't something that would slide by me."

Exactly.
It makes me mad, cos i've had one other relationship (before clara was born) that was serious enough that he was around carter, and even then it was WAY more of a family atmosphere than it is here. i want someone who's excited to do things with the kids 'n such.

Quoting EnnaBennaBanana:" It would be. my husband used to be the same. We worked through it and now he only plays video games at our sons nap or bedtime."

The problem here is dude goes to bed really early, but i mean, that shouldn't be an excuse cos here we are on a weekend and he's not waiting til they're in bed.

Quoting KNZ.:" Exactly. It makes me mad, cos i've had one other relationship (before clara was born) that was serious ... [snip!] ... then it was WAY more of a family atmosphere than it is here. i want someone who's excited to do things with the kids 'n such."

  That makes me really sad. Would he participate in like a family outing of some kind? Like if you all went to a park or went on a nature walk...idk something? Even walking around the mall lol.

Oh he'll no! That wouldn't fly in this house! He is being very disrespectful and immature. You all have a family together and I understand that he works all day and he wants to relax a bit when he comes home but sitting up there all evening .. Nope! That's just rude. Family comes first.

You need to sit down and have a huge talk with him. He needs to help out with the kids when he gets home and take care of his parenting responsibilities. A good compromise would be when he gets home he can go upstairs for an hour to unwind after wok and relax a bit, after that he needs to come down and spend the rest of the evening as a family and help out with the kids/home. Once the kids are in bed then he can go back up and do what he wants. But to be upstairs by himself all evening is ignorant and immature IMO.

Quoting KNZ.:" The problem here is dude goes to bed really early, but i mean, that shouldn't be an excuse cos here we are on a weekend and he's not waiting til they're in bed."

He defanitly needs to spend more family time. I believe video games can defanitly be addicting and my husband and alot of probs with them when we first got married. It took away alot of family time.
If he goes to bed to early to play at their bed time maybe he can think of a special time during the day he can play for an hour or 2. I know making time limits and scheduals sometimes can seem lame.. but maybe he needs help schedualing his family time/ gaming time.

Quoting Mother of Broccoli.:"   That makes me really sad. Would he participate in like a family outing of some kind? Like if you all went to a park or went on a nature walk...idk something? Even walking around the mall lol."

last night we all went to a movie for clara's first time, but we weren't talking at that point, so while we were still together and the kids had fun, it didn't really feel right.
he's come to the park with us like, once since we've gotten back together, ha.
it's more fun with out him sometimes cos we stay longer, happier mood, etc.

Quoting Layla's Momma ♥:" Oh he'll no! That wouldn't fly in this house! He is being very disrespectful and immature. You all have ... [snip!] ... are in bed then he can go back up and do what he wants. But to be upstairs by himself all evening is ignorant and immature IMO."

I agree. He's so irrational though, he'll try to hold it over my head that he pays the bills so he's earned his time, etc etc. And then it's just past the point of return cos he think i'm wrong about it all  

Quoting KNZ.:" I agree. He's so irrational though, he'll try to hold it over my head that he pays the bills so he's ... [snip!] ... the bills so he's earned his time, etc etc. And then it's just past the point of return cos he think i'm wrong about it all  "

RAGE.

Quoting EnnaBennaBanana:" He defanitly needs to spend more family time. I believe video games can defanitly be addicting and ... [snip!] ... making time limits and scheduals sometimes can seem lame.. but maybe he needs help schedualing his family time/ gaming time."

Oh i completely agree.
And his game must've not been THAT great, cos he's now replaced it with that damn show. So it's like, can't you just watch ONE episode and then re-join family life?
I just don't get it...it's like, he MUST have a screen in front of his face, and it must be with him alone.
He's gone 29 years of his life pretty much just being a one-man set up, and doing things as he's done it. But, our daughter's 2 now, he's had 3+ years with my son, and our baby's coming in April, so, it's time to dad-up.

Pssst.

Mine is getting the silent treatment and sleeping on the couch ;)

Extra snuggles with the kids! Score!

Hmmmpf.. to deal or not deal with it tomorrow..

Quoting KNZ.:" last night we all went to a movie for clara's first time, but we weren't talking at that point, so while ... [snip!] ... like, once since we've gotten back together, ha. it's more fun with out him sometimes cos we stay longer, happier mood, etc."

  I'm sorry he's such a downer. I don't know what I'd end up doing in that situation. Have you told him that you don't feel like things are really working?

Quoting £egendary £ex:" RAGE."

It's ALWAYS his go-to in an argument. Allllwayyyys.